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I think the perfume issue is handled

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Eileen Gray

Eileen Gray

Fri, June 06, 2008

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For those of you who have been following my perfume issue at work, I think it's finally handled. The situation reached it's breaking point last week when my boss was on vacation. Perfume girl wore perfume three times that week. The first day I didn't say anything, thinking it's Tuesday, coming off of a long weekend, she probably just forgot. Then Wednesday happend and I spoke with my supervisor about it.

 

My supervisor spoke with perfume girl and the girl said "MM, Sorry" kinda relayed back to me as if she was not so nice about it, which of course made the situation that much more tense. I ended up with a full blown migraine Weds. because of it. The migraine would not fully abort and was almost gone on Friday when I smelled the wretched smell again.

 

I went to my supervisor, now hysterical because I'm feeling like this girl is being spiteful and unkind. I told my supervisor I'm leaving. I am not going to wait to be in pain, which I know will happen from her perfume. I went home. Perfume girl stated she was not wearing the perfume that day, but I later found out she was wearing the same sweater from earlier in the week from when she was wearing it. Yell

 

My boss came back on Tuesday this week, I had spoken with her by phone on Monday and let her know what was going on. She said Perfume Girl feels like I'm attacking her personally and that it's about more then the perfume. OK now I'm like whatever. She said perfume girl is ready to quit. She also said that if she wears it again, she will send her home. She asked me if I would be willing to talk to her, since I'm sure you all know what it's like working with a bunch of women, or just with different people....the day gets boring, people tend to gossip or throw in their two cents.

 

So Tuesday I take perfume girl outside and lay it on the line with her. I tell her I'm sorry I did not come to her personally about the perfume, but that I thought it was taken care of 3 months ago when I emailed her about it, which is why I then was contacting higher ups. I also explained that I was so angry that even when she was not wearing the perfume, I didn't want to talk to her because I thought she was being spiteful, and that when she was wearing it, I couldn't go near her anyway!

 

She said her course schedule at school had changed and out of habit of putting on the perfume before school she was putting it on (she was going to school after work, this changed and now she is going before). I understand this. It's different, I think for people who are not as senstive to these things. Wearing perfume for her won't land her in the hospital like it may for us. I explained that to her, that her perfume has given me such bad migraines, that I was only hours away from status migrainous and would have to seek medical attention.

 

She said she has given the perfume to her sister and will no longer be wearing it. I really thanked her for that.

 

The irony of the situation is, the perfume is Calvin Klein Euphoria.....my husband wears the male version which I bought him for christmas. For some reason, on this girl, it just doesn't mix well with her body chemisty and smells like medicine and causes me to migraine. I found that very strange. I would have thought the perfume would have been either an oil or a cheap drug store kind, by the way it filled the whole room.

6/ 6/08 2:47pm

I am so glad to hear this has a happy ending and hopefully your work environment will remain perfume free. I know just how frustrating this can be. After going through it myself, I hope everyday that we won't hire someone new who puts me back in the same situation. Jobs just don't fall in your lap and one shouldn't have to feel like they need to leave theirs or that they are causing the problem, because of someone else's behavior.

 

I still think back and get angry when I think about the fact that when this happened to me, I was just starting to get my headaches under control. I had just come back from spending my hard-earned vacation time in a headache clinic (not fun!). To go through all that and then go back to work to have someone triggering my headaches everyday was devasting. And then not getting any action on the part of my employer was crushing. Today I am back at square one. Taking daily meds everyday. Constent headaches, and still trying to pay off the hospital bills that insurance wouldn't cover. I know I shouldn't dwell on this, but I  feel like part of my life was robbed. I wish the got it.

6/ 6/08 3:39pm

I totally understand where you are coming from! This issue was so bad, I was going to quit my job, even if it ment I had to do anything else to survive.

 

It sounds like we were in very similar situations. I too feel like I am finally getting some control over my migraines, and to have something as stupid or rediculous as perfume set me back, no way!

 

Thanks for the comments! I wish you well too! We can only do as much as we can do.....I hope you find a treatment that works for you again. I know how frustrating it is when your medications start to fail.

 

Good luck to you!

6/12/08 1:09pm

last time i went to the ER from a not scent free non profit i had to tear off and dispose of the  airfreshener in the ER restroom.

 

any place says no tobacco should be scent free for all health needs. migriane allergy asthma etc.....not jsut the pc thing of the day.

 

are any advocates working on this?

ANY PETITONS OUT THERE?

 

 

 

6/14/08 11:37am

Talking seemed to have worked better than going through an intermediary like your boss or supervisor. Perhaps you've even made a new acquaintance at work that could evolve over time into a friendship of sorts. I work with a bunch of women as well and it can be easy to misinterpret each other's motives. Good luck!

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gilda
6/21/08 4:00pm

Glad that is is maybe taken of.  You said what kind of perfume that it was like you were kinda guilty that it was expensive?  I was given a large bottle of Chanel #5 that I wore one time - instant migraine.  I handed it over to my very grateful and excited older sister.  My MIL got a bottle also, she gave hers as a gift to a good friend.  If you are feeling guilty, find out what kind of bath soaps that she likes and acquire and gift her those.

Anonymous
Kellyn
7/ 2/08 10:21am

I had the same problem with a colleague of mine (who also happens to be a friend) anytime she wore Angel (which contains Patchouli).  After suffering migraines and nausea a few times, I decided to just tell her.  I believe that I may have a form of MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivity) that is triggered by certain smells...

 

Anyway, I nicely but honestly explained to her that the perfume (and anything with Patchouli in it) makes me violently ill and migraine and that it was nothing to do with her but could she please not wear it in the office (where there are no windows or outside air circulating).

 

She was a bit surprised but very apologetic and accommodating.

 

She forgot once and wore the perfume again once and after I jokingly asked her to warn me before coming to my side of the office, she realized what she'd done.  As a friend, I know she realized I was being honest and she didn't want to make me ill so since then, she never wears that scent around me and I wholeheartedly appreciate it.

 

I think oftentimes people thing these issues are "all in our heads" but they don't realize how real and debilitating it can be to sufferers!

 

I really hope your co-worker respects you enough not to wear the offending perfume again!Smile

7/ 2/08 10:24am

I'm glad your perfume issue was handled too!

 

Mine is all gone! She stopped wearing it all together. It's been over a month now I think and it's all good. Laughing

Anonymous
Anonymous
7/ 2/08 12:59pm

I am having the exact same issue at work; in fact, i have a migraine right now triggered by a co-worker. Thank you for sharing your story. I am going to try and be as brave as you are.

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