Daily migraine and depression - any advice

Hi  - I'm new to the site, have had migraines for 5 years and over the last 2 years they've been considerably worse.  I am going to start seeing a counselor because I just can't seem to cope with the daily migraines that last for 8 to 12 hours, or frequently 2 or 3 days.  I haven't had a pain-free day in a long time and I just can't seem to cope with it and keep a positive attitude the way I used to.  I feel like a terrible mom because I can't be as engaged with my husband and 10 year old son.  how do other people cope with these feelings?  I'm seeing a great neurologist and my employer has been very understanding, I'm on a LOT of medication and obviously things could be worse.  We are still working to adjust all the dosages and get the right cocktail, they seem to stop working every 12 weeks or so.  Any advice on how to work through the depression, frustration, and anger of debilitating chronic daily pain?  I just want to feel normal, and if that's 3 manageable migraines a month and no more trips to the ER then I can handle that!