Migraine and Suicide Blog Series

By Kelly, FlywithHope Monday, September 05, 2011

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I did a blog post on my blog, Fly With Hope called Migraine and Suicide back in July. Starting yesterday in honor of National Suicide Prevention Week (4th-10th) and Pain Awareness Month (September) I am posting every day this week a series of topics on Migraine and Suicide including what to do when you're suicidal, ideas of what to do when you're at the end of your rope, prevention ideas, stories from the community of those who have attempted, posts for family/friends, suicide and faith and links to other blog posts/articles on Migraine and Suicide.

Please come join in and find that you are not alone. My goal is to decrease the stigma of the discussion of suicide so that we might be more supportive in the chronic Migraine/chronic pain community on this issue. I look forward to having you all join in on the discussion!

Kelly

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Nancy Harris Bonk, Health Guide

9/ 6/11 5:23pm

Thanks Kelly for writing about this sensitive issue. Here is a post that absolutley breaks my heart.

migraine kills - Migraine

Angela

9/21/11 11:20pm

I've felt depressed after a migraine. You've missed work, a family event-important at that, you've let people down, and they don't get it. They won't talk to you, they can't forgive you, they want you to take a pill & fix it and you can't. In my case, after 15 years of migraines, my family has had & and says, "be well," no more sincerity. It's like they think that I'm trying to get out of the event when I'm not. The feeling of rejection, or being made to feel like your a liar is crushing, I can't imagine being a child or a teen-ager experiencing the downfall of a migraine. When I returned to work today after being gone for 1.5 days from a migraine, (mind you, I tried to go in the 2nd day & got reminded that the migraine had not concluded it's course), my co-workers were rude and are finished asking me if I'm better. They know that I am, honestly, they think I copped out of work & even laughed in my face about it. I wanted to run home and cry, but it's my faith that pulls me through, not their fullfillment in gossiping about my time in migraine misery. And yet still, you feel guilty for being sick. I don't know why.

Kelly, FlywithHope

9/27/11 2:50pm

Angela, Thanks for sharing that you too have felt depressed after a Migraine. It is such a common thing. I agree with you about how you feel about when you are unable to attend events/work ect that you want/need to, and then you feel like people don't get it or are let down.

I am sorry to hear that your co-workers were so unforgiving and not compassionate recently. Something I've learned is to try not to let what others think about me be how I define myself. You know that you needed to take off work...that you were ill. It is so crappy that they did not show you compassion and that reflects on them. But I understand how it hurts because we just want validation, right?

I have not worked in six years, but I remember whenever I took a day off I felt badly. But try hard not to feel guilty! You have to keep reminding yourself that your Migraine disease is NOT your fault. And you actually should feel really great that you took the time to take care of yourself and responeded to what your body was saying. If you didn't, you would probably be much worse off! I think other people sometimes have a hard time understanding that when a Migraine attack hits, sometimes we simply CANNOT do what we want/need to do. It no longer becomes a choice. Keep up the good fight and don't let the other people get you down dear.

There is a great article called When Migraine Endangers Our Friendships by Teri Robert. You should check it out as it has some really great things to say on what you just talked about and also she has a letter to educate others, which is really fantastic.

Best to you and hope you are as well as possible today!

Angela

9/29/11 10:30pm

I did not know that there was a book, that's awesome. I'll have to pick it up.

Thank you!

Kelly, FlywithHope

9/30/11 8:51am

Oh, its not a book...its an article online. If you click on the link you can read it. :)

Angela

10/ 1/11 1:52am

I am such in a hurry sometimes, and don't pay all of the attention that I need to. Our Pastor talked about "Hurrying" all of the time, which stemmed from a book called the "Good and Beautiful God," by James Bryan Smith. As I find myself attempting to slow down, you just caught me speeding up again.

Thank you for taking the time to write me a message. I've really been struggling with all the migraine disability. Not only do the migraines cause havoc on life, but the hormonal aspect of them do too, like the endometriosis, pcos, and other medical problems that your body endures due to them. I very much appreciate your understanding and kindness.

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