My boyfriend has migraine and i want to be there with him through it all but than what should i do when he has his attacks, how do i take care him... It scares the hell out of me when he has his episodes... I need help...
You really should ask him, but here are some pointers.
Make sure he has a cold, dark, quiet place.
A cold compress is nice.
A glass of water or Coke is good too.
If he suffers from vomiting, make sure he has a bucket near by....
Keep toast and crackers on hand
Some people like being held, for others any contact is painful, so it really depends. Most of us really just want a quiet place to lie down.
Ask him what will help him most, but not during a migraine attack.
Just the fact that you've asked this question is such a wonderful start. My boyfriend does all of those things (tucking me in, turning the lights off, bringing me ice packs and water) but more importantly he really takes the time to listen to how I feel and be empathetic. It can be really hard to explain the toll migraines take on you to most people, but your significant other is truly the one that experiences it with you all the time. So having someone there to be understanding, comforting, encouraging and supportive is the best thing anyone suffering from migraines could ask for. He's a lucky man.
Hi TheArieslyn - Thank you for being so caring toward your boyfriend!
Kat gave you some good ideas. When I have a migraine I just want someone checking on me to see what I need. You might also want to help him find a Migraine specialist if he doesn't already have one.
If his current doctor isn't able to help him, it may well be time to consult a Migraine and headache specialist. It's important to note that neurologists aren't necessarily Migraine and headache specialists. Take a look at the article Migraine and Headache Specialists - What's So Special? If you need help finding a Migraine specialist, check our listing of Patient Recommended Migraine and Headache Specialists.
Good luck to you!