Yes, Yes, and Yes. Of course dying from complications of MS has been on my mind for years. My one problem with that is I do not see my children or grandchildren and I feel that I have not many years left, about 10 or so. (I am looking at 62 this year) They do not seem to think about that or want to see me more, so i just have to live with it. We all have to die, and I think having MS makes us more aware of it. I do think that "newbies" to MS will get scared and I hope their doctors and/or caregivers let them know that we all die anyway, having MS does not change that and they should live each day to the fullest that they are able to. Doesn't mean you gotta knock yourself out to cram a lifetime into hours. That would be silly and dangerous. Just be yourself and live the life you have well, with grace and dignity and honor and love. I do think that Annette's death will raise awareness of MS, especially since MS Awareness Month is May. I hope it generates a lot of support and donations, and i think Annette would feel the same way. She lived her life with grace and dignity, a great role model for us all. Thanks Annette! Bless you all!
Although I don't personally think about MS contributing to my eventual death, I do think about how RA can affect my lifespan because of it's effect on the heart and lungs. I like what you've said - "Just be yourself and live the life you have well, with grace and dignity and honor and love." Very wise words for all of us. Thank you for sharing.
"Died of complications from MS" and the abmiguity of that statement hoestly freaks me out a bit. I wish the doctors or her family were more forthcoming about the specifics of her passing. As someone with MS, it does scare me. I think the media and her medical providers are doing those of us with MS a disservice by not using this as an opportunity to educate others about MS. Just my $0.02.
Ivy,
I agree that ambiguity opens the door for greater fear for those affected by MS. The subject of death is so tricky sometimes. Occasionally, we get questions related to end-of-life and it's hard to answer them without more information and greater knowledge of the specific issues at hand. I wish that we could discuss specifics rather than ambiguities. It would benefit us all.
Lisa
Thank you for writing this. You have raised great and important questions. Personally. I am not afraid and feel grateful that there are people who are willing to go public with their stories in order to make a difference in the world. I do believe that her death will result in the increased awareness and potentially funding for MS programs, services and research.
For me the big question is not how I will die, But rather how I live. Will I make a difference in the world? Will I have a positive and lasting impact on others after I am gone? Can I do that And if so, how do I do it?
A harsh reality is that tomorrow each of us could be wrong over by a bus. If that were to happen then all of our fears about how we die would be for naught.
My mother died at 68 years of age. It was not a particularly long life, but it was not a short life either. It was however long enough for her to have made a great impression on the many people that knew her. She will long be remembered for how she lived. Not how she died.
I can only hope that someone will say the same about me. They certainly will about you.
Michael
Lisa, I just wrote a post yesterday on my blog about this issue. First, I wanted to know, "What are these complications?" and "Why aren't they discussed?" Did it frighten me to read that? No, it just provoked my curiosity. Will it frighten any newbies? If not explained, it certainly could.
I received some excellent answers to my questions, by the way.
Peace,
Muff
Muff,
Although I could probably guess at least a couple of the complications, it would be nice to have concrete information so that better understanding of the effects of the disease can occur. Thank you for commenting. Good to see you stopping by.
Lisa