"I'm So Sorry" - Economy, Multiple Sclerosis, and Friendship

think we are all human , ms is type disease that sometimes all we do apologise myself included, simple have been unable get to forums , my son has some problems ,he disclosed when he was 8 he was abused for year by neighbour , so suddenly life become all Detective ,evidence so had days when ms took back seat..........fact my MRI back bad need scans spine done as discovered something say no nerve signal getting through never had inpact bad news filtered in my left ear & Out my right ear as try to help my son , find all day I am apologising for myself , my sons safe now has face court case .I am proud him as he opted to testify rather than video link,

thats going take courage. think sometimes Liz we find it hard to forgive ourselves.

Interesting. Sometimes when I'm listening (or reading) about another person with MS, I become detached from the fact that I have it, too.

I feel horrified at their symptoms or their situation regarding affordable health care. When I remind myself that I am in the same boat with them, it's almost shocking.

I think it's just a sign that despite our own problems, we haven't lost the ability to care for and about other people. We've managed to retain the very human emotions of empathy, sympathy, and understanding. We still reach out and try to help, even as others do the same for us.

Sorry you've had to feel so... well, sorry...

Hi Lisa---

I know what you mean about apologizing.  I am very impulsive when I comment and I'm sure some of my tough or (supposedly) funny comments have been taken the wrong way.  But I guess there's something genuine about saying how one really feels.  I'm an Aries, so it's very difficult for me to edit my words for content:  I'll tell you exactly how I feel and I wear my heart on my sleeve.  So don't beat yourself up.  I still love a fired-up comment that you left at my site a while back.  I think we all should agree to disagree....

I've been getting so jaded by what is happening to a lot of MS bloggers.  I'm trying to tout my site as a source for inspiration and strength, since so many people are suffering in so many ways.  I hope you don't mind if I have a post about MS strength stories-- It's been running around in my head all afternoon while at the library and then driving home.  I think a couple of the stories are the ones you mentioned above.  I like to plug stuff that I think someone out in the vast internet world will find helpful, inspirational, or just interesting.  Actually one of the stories is about you (airport situation.)  I have just seen so many recent tales of MS strength that I need to pass them along...

Take care and know that you are one cool chick with a lot of chutzpah, which is why I admire you.

Jen

I know, embrace, that my and all but a small number of people with MS will progress, suffer, lose the life they had and the realization of many dreams. Maybe I am just a tough cookie, but pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start over again. Stop feeling sorry for the bad luck; it won't be your last. I surround myself with tough cookies. No tears, woe is me, we talk about the positive choices we will make. We make each other laugh. I read many sad posts on my 100 Chronic Illness List; bloggers dying and posting---amazing---what do I say? How can I help? What is your plan? I say, "No, I don't think that is a good idea." or "Yes, that sounds great." I've had an awful week. The details will serve no good purpose. Do I cry? Sure. Cuss? You bet. But I never lose sight of how LUCKY I am to be here, in the USA, in a warm home with food, clean water, a partner who loves me endlessly and I her, friends who care about me and I them, and always, ALWAYS---the kindess of strangers. I say "thank you." I don't lack empaty for others dealing with illness; I am there if they need a rock, hugs don't last. I do pat though.  And I serve Jack Daniels.

I'm sorry that you're feeling this way right now.  We all are having are trials that we have to deal with.  And even though some of them may sound more difficult than others, we all are on the same boat.  And it's not an easy boat to keep on course. 

Take care of yourself, we are here for you, just like you are always here fro us.

A true friend is worth way more to me than blogs, money, or ego.  I think I am much more appreciative these days of friendship since my diagnosis. When you have an illness you begin to realize who your real friends are.  They are the ones who quietly support you through the rough times.  Friendship in its truest form is intimate and sacred. It is neither brash nor self serving.  It is nourished by compassion, caring, and honesty.  Friendship is much like a garden...you have to feed it the right things or it will not grow.  Things like jealousy, competetiveness, and paranoia will kill it.  All friendships at one time or another require a few "I'm sorry"s as well as forgiveness and a letting go.  When we embrace the idea that we all do need each other, it puts everything into perspective.  Keep writing, reaching out, and being a friend. 

I, too, am sorry we have these thngs popping up.  No, Life is not fair, and I am sorry for that, too.  We say it over and over, each time another unfair event raises its ugly head.  I'm sorry for them all, for each one, and for the need to repeat myself.