MS, Love and De-Stressing: Question of the Week

By Cathy, Health Guide Monday, February 13, 2012
  Valentine’s Day. A day to express our love to those in our life we feel are special.  The Hallmark store is filled with cards to help us.  We can buy a card to say I love you to our husband, wife, companion, child, grandchild, sweetheart, aunt, uncle, friend, teacher, co-worker...
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2/13/12 6:05pm

My husband is my Valentine and he treats me like a queen every day of my life.  As a matter of fact, after 7 years of Copaxone injections, today was my very first dose of oral Gilenya, and he sat patiently with me at the MS Clinic while I was being monitored.  I think he is more thankful than I am that I no longer have to stick myself with a needle every day.  It hurt him so much every day to see me do it.  Needless to say, Valentine's Day came a day early in my house.  May God Bless everyone battling this disease.

Cathy, Health Guide
2/13/12 6:32pm

Foreverhopeful,

 

It says it all in your name!  Good luck with the Gilenya.  Keep us posted on how you are doing with it.  Your husband sounds simply wonderful - G-d bless you both.

 

 

2/13/12 11:41pm

I gave you a heart for that loving post!! :)

 

My husband is my very special Valentine. We'll celebrate our 30th anniversary this June, and my 28th anniversary of my MS diagnosis in April. He has been with me every step of this bumpy journey. When the Dr said, "Your wife has MS", my husband looked at me and said, "WE have MS". I have never felt alone with him by my side. Yes, lonely at times with this disease residing in only one of us, but never alone.

 

Thank you for reminding me to be grateful on this day full of love! We'll have dinner together and I'll be sure and tell him how very much his love and support have meant to me all these years.

 

Hoping everyone has a love-filled day! Kiss

Cathy, Health Guide
2/14/12 6:23am

Thank you for your heart, Angela, and for sharing your lovely story.  You are very blessed to have such a loving marriage and someone at your side - your husband sounds so very special (of course, he think you are so very special: shhhh, but so do I!) Having a 30 year marriage (congrats) is wonderful and IS a blessing.

 

I remember leading an MS support group when I was first diagnosed (crazy, eh?) and there were a few people who were there that weren't thrilled with me, as my boyfriend (now husband) sat next to me during the meetings.  They were jealous or angry because they knew I had a solid, loving relationship and their husbands had left them after their diagnosis. I felt badly for them - the anger and frustration in the air was always palpable.  That is not an uncommon story - spouses walking out after the diagnosis - so I consider your story, and mine, to be a blessing and a gift - something to cherish each day.  I hope that they, and others, find their way toward love and feel less lonely and more trusting of others again.

 

Happy and Healthy Valentine's Day to you, Angela.  You've been a great friend to me on HC, and I thank you.

Lisa Emrich, Health Guide
2/14/12 11:58am

Happy Heart Day, Cathy!!

 

You know what I've been up to in the love/heart department.  I have to teach tonight, so no special dinner for Rob and me.  But that's okay because it doesn't have to be Valentine's Day to appreciate some time together.

 

I hadn't stopped to think until just now....this will be the only Valentine's Day which I spend engaged.  Hm.

 

It's wonderful to hear about the love and support you receive at home and from the community.  It puts a smile on my face, dear friend.

 

Here's an extra hug from me <<<>>>

 

Lisa

 

Cathy, Health Guide
2/14/12 12:49pm

Lisa,

 

Thank you so much for your kind words.  I am grateful for so much today, it seems.  Many friends helped me through some rough patches this past year, and you were certainly one of them!  I thank you for your many kindnesses. 

 

It helps de-stress to find things that make me feel good.  One of those ways is letting people know they are important in my life, and have mattered in ways that hadn't occurred to them.  Isn't it funny that living with a chronic illness opened my eyes to what's important in life, more than what had occurred to me many moons ago when I was first diagnosed?  Irony.  Chronic illness = being thankful.  That is true irony!

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By Cathy, Health Guide— Last Modified: 02/24/12, First Published: 02/13/12