MS fatigue or Laziness?

theresag79 Community Member April 17, 2009
  • I haven't posted on this website for a long time, basically because I have nothing to talk about and usually when I am not feeling the symptoms enough to bother me, I normally don't think about it.  Lately I have been dealing with a lot of fatigue and wondering if it is my MS or is it me just being lazy.  I feel like I have turned into a fat lazy slob.  I don't clean up as much as I use to.  I have no desire to cook, but I do.  I want to just lay in my bed and sleep all day. 

    Now I know right now I am experiencing a form of MS fatigue because I have a low grade fever and usually they go hand and hand for me.  But how do I get my head on straight to recognize the MS or laziness?

    I hate this.  I hate feeling lazy.  I hate being disorganized.  I hate the fact that I lose track of time easily or get distracted easily or lose focus easily or feeling like I don't know where to start anymore.  I don't know how to deal with it.  I don't want my young kids to think it's ok for the house to be a mess.  They take advantage of the fact that they can wear me down, by asking the same questions until they get there way or by having me repeat myself over and over again until I give up and just don't care anymore or forget or yell.  I know this is a place I can vent and I am so grateful for it.  I have no positive thoughts about MS, I try not to think about, my symptoms have just become a part of who I am but I don't know how to deal with this laziness thing.

    I feel so bad

8 Comments
  • Lisa Emrich
    Health Guide
    Apr. 17, 2009

    Hi Theresa,

     

    You can ALWAYS vent here as much as you need.  But you are not being lazy.  MS fatigue does not equal laziness.  Would there be a way to get your children to help with household chores?  It might be a great way to teach them responsibility. 

     

    Do you try to lower your temperature some?  I usually have to...

    RHMLucky777

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    Hi Theresa,

     

    You can ALWAYS vent here as much as you need.  But you are not being lazy.  MS fatigue does not equal laziness.  Would there be a way to get your children to help with household chores?  It might be a great way to teach them responsibility. 

     

    Do you try to lower your temperature some?  I usually have to result to Tylenol to bring down a low-grade fever.  I hope you begin to feel better soon.

    • theresag79
      Apr. 20, 2009

      Kids and Chores.  I'm trying but I have a hard time staying consistent with them. Thanks so much for the comments

  • Merely Me
    Health Guide
    May. 07, 2009

    I know how hard this must be and to also be a parent.  MS doesn't give you a break and sometimes neither do the kids.

     

    You are not lazy...you are just tired.

     

    Is there anyone who can watch the kids and give you a break? 

     

    I do hope you write here more often.  I want to hear your story.

     

    Hang in there!

  • Anonymous
    diane
    Apr. 23, 2009

    Karen,

    I long for the days when I could do whatever I wanted (needed) to do.  The %$#@#

    disease not only saps your energy, it makes you feel guilty and tells you "you're lazy".

    I could have NEVER imagined that I could EVER feel this wasted and tired.  The inability to make plans or do things at the drop of a hat really reduces the quaility of our...

    RHMLucky777

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    Karen,

    I long for the days when I could do whatever I wanted (needed) to do.  The %$#@#

    disease not only saps your energy, it makes you feel guilty and tells you "you're lazy".

    I could have NEVER imagined that I could EVER feel this wasted and tired.  The inability to make plans or do things at the drop of a hat really reduces the quaility of our lives w/ the monster.  "If I could only have one day where I could do whatever and how much I wanted..."  This is a phrase my friend also w/ ms say to each other often.   I so admire those of you w/ children.  It's a tough job for healthy folks..you deserve a medal for parenting w/ this crummy disease.  My hat is off to you and I wish you many good days...Taking care of yourself is a good thing to do for your children.

    • karen
      Apr. 24, 2009

      Hi Diane, Thanks for your comment. It sure is nice to know Im not alone! I used to beable to do so much in one day and now what I get done is sad! I think of all that I need to do and I get scared. But hey life goes on whether stuff gets done or not. Thanks for the comment about parents with ms, but I got to tell you I sure wont be winning any parent of the...

      RHMLucky777

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      Hi Diane, Thanks for your comment. It sure is nice to know Im not alone! I used to beable to do so much in one day and now what I get done is sad! I think of all that I need to do and I get scared. But hey life goes on whether stuff gets done or not. Thanks for the comment about parents with ms, but I got to tell you I sure wont be winning any parent of the year award! I just do the best I can and I pray its going to be enough to raise these boys to be good boys who remember childhood as being good. I hope they forget the times when mom couldnt get out of bed. We with MS or any other crappy disease have to keep the Faith and no God is in control and things will get better one day... Untill then hang in there!!!!

  • karen
    Apr. 17, 2009

    You are not lazy!!! Because if you are than I am too! I have the same feelings that you have and I suffer from the same guilt. Before MS I had my life and house in so much better order! I spent my days off from work cleaning, organizing, running errands.... now I feel like I hardly get anything done and after I get a few things done Im exhausted and feel like...

    RHMLucky777

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    You are not lazy!!! Because if you are than I am too! I have the same feelings that you have and I suffer from the same guilt. Before MS I had my life and house in so much better order! I spent my days off from work cleaning, organizing, running errands.... now I feel like I hardly get anything done and after I get a few things done Im exhausted and feel like crap...Then I need a nap. The days I work at my job I am totally exhausted when I get home and I feel like I neglect my family and responsibilities when I need to go and nap. And excercing to loose this extra weight...YEAH RIGHT!  I feel so much less worhty these days and some days totally useless. But I know this is not true for me or for you! The MS is lazy not us! Just know you are not alone in these feelings and there are so many people who understand what you are going through..MS sucks for sure! Hang in there!!! Karen

    • momdukes
      Apr. 18, 2009

      Lazy, people with MS do not even know the meaning of the word!  We would not know lazy if it sat beside us and the kissed uis, not slapped us, becuase then we would have to get our canes and knock the fire out of lazy.  I think that the worst part of MS is Fatique.  When it hits it hits hards.  Unless someone has experienced it they have...

      RHMLucky777

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      Lazy, people with MS do not even know the meaning of the word!  We would not know lazy if it sat beside us and the kissed uis, not slapped us, becuase then we would have to get our canes and knock the fire out of lazy.  I think that the worst part of MS is Fatique.  When it hits it hits hards.  Unless someone has experienced it they have no idea what we are going through.  For me when I was first beginning to go through it, in my little pea size mind, I would think, " did I just blank out and run around the block and nobody told me!"  that is just how tired I would feel.  All I would have done was seperate the laundry for washing.  So I know what you are going through.  Do not feel bad, it is just one ofthe perils of the monster.  Have you tried Provigil.  It works pretty good.  But for me, and I can only speak for me, the more you take the less it works, my suggestion is take it only when needed. Talk with the experts here.  I have stopped taking it for now, because, I am going to start over, but I am going to start again.  But it is not you it is the monster.  Do not feel bad, all MS'rs go through it you are not alone.  Vent here anytime, we all do, cause that is what we do.  It is just the fact of the business, what that means.  A man said that to me the other day and laughed, sounds good, I am going to try and figure out what that means so I can say it and not sound stupid. 

       Take care!Kiss  Sherr/Smomdukes

    • theresag79
      Apr. 20, 2009

      You do Understand ! Laughing