MS and Marriage: For the Patient/Spouse: 5 Ways to Show You Care

Mandy,

This is a wonderful post and I'm looking forward to the next one.  Even pre-marriage, this is important stuff to remember in a relationship.  Thanks for the reminder.

What?  Our partners are not mind readers?  Say it isn't so!  No wonder he hasn't gotten the hint to buy more chocolate. 

Seriously...great topic for your post.  In dealing with MS it is sometimes easy to overlook the folk who help take care of us. 

Mandy:

Thank you for writing on this subject. At first, my reaction was "I don't want to hear what I need to do -- I want to hear what he needs to do." But if I don't contribute and meet my husband halfway, then only more problems crop up.

I don't think my husband and I are in-sync about my MS issues. However, I need to focus on what I can do and not what he should do. Your list is a good place for me to start.

Of course, you know I'll be waiting for your next column... :)

- Julie

Once I got the DX, we both began learning about MS. After that I do my best to make sure I have MS not my partner. Our relationship has changed little. We go with the flow. Our love for each other out weighs everythig else. Nothing comes between us.

Of course you know these tips work for an MS-less  marriage, too.  We all need reminding sometimes.  Thanks.

 Hubby and I, have been together since 16..married 32 years, have 4 educated children, 3 new kid-in-laws and 2 wonderful grand boys, life has given hubby MS almost 1 year ago now, at 54 !!! it stinks!!!

 i have survived his cocaine abuse, alcohol abuse, and family disfuctions!!!..., spent over a year apart, with 4 young kiddies,  due to that!!     only now, get to support his MS !!!!  I am tired, worn out, and now,  get to play the nurse to his never ending needs...I hate giving him his shots, I would rather slap him!

 I loved him at 16, and 26, 36, 46, and 53..despite everything!!!  but, at 54, I am having a really hard time with the nasty remarks, and never ending hurtfull comments, his sleeping, his holy'er than now shit!   Once again, I see him ruining my life. and I am so resentful!

  Volatile..?  ha, doesn't even come close.

  he is retired and newly rich to boot...don't figure??

I'd leave..but, I took a vow..and I love the guy I married and used to know.

You can have the MS effect!!!