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Telling Your Children about Your MS Diagnosis

Merely Me Health Guide December 10, 2008
  •   I was going to title this article something like "What to Tell Your Kids About MS" but I figured that I really don't know myself, so how could I tell someone else what to say.  To tell you the truth I am never much good about such explanations.  You would think I would be good at th...

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Dec. 11, 2008

    Merely Me,

     

    This is great advice for not only MS, but any real problem you are experiencing.  It's scary to tell your child that you have a serious problem.  I alway want to protect them from bad news and keep them happy.  Most kids, though, are very intuitive and know something is wrong - they just don't know what.  This creates stress...

    RHMLucky777

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    Merely Me,

     

    This is great advice for not only MS, but any real problem you are experiencing.  It's scary to tell your child that you have a serious problem.  I alway want to protect them from bad news and keep them happy.  Most kids, though, are very intuitive and know something is wrong - they just don't know what.  This creates stress and fear of the unknown in them.  It's usually better to tell them the truth, adjusted for their age, than to let them live with the unknown.  I learned this lesson the hard way.  But that's a story for another day.

     

    Curt

    • Merely Me
      Health Guide
      Dec. 14, 2008

      I do sense a story here.  You will have to tell it sometime.  It is true what you say...you can't hide stuff from kids...they know something is up.  I wanted to be upfront as soon as possible so that if there were worries or questions, I could address them.  It was hard to do though.  Who wants to tell your kids that you have an incurable...

      RHMLucky777

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      I do sense a story here.  You will have to tell it sometime.  It is true what you say...you can't hide stuff from kids...they know something is up.  I wanted to be upfront as soon as possible so that if there were worries or questions, I could address them.  It was hard to do though.  Who wants to tell your kids that you have an incurable disease?  Very low on my happy to do this list.  lol

       

      Good to see you and I hope you are feeling well.  Thanks for stopping by!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Dec. 10, 2008

    Wonderful advice.  I think the most important thing is to have the talk and not try to hide things away.  What ones says and the child's reaction will of course vary with each child as each is different, except in the ways you mentioned.  All children need to be loved, and to feel they are not alone.  Kinda like the rest of us.

    • Merely Me
      Health Guide
      Dec. 14, 2008

      You are making me feel good with what you say.  I think they need to be told too.  I did think for a few minutes...well hey maybe I just won't say anything and hopefully they will never notice.  But sometimes as the adult you gotta do the uncomfortable stuff.  And actually I was grateful that they did not over react.  I do appreciate...

      RHMLucky777

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      You are making me feel good with what you say.  I think they need to be told too.  I did think for a few minutes...well hey maybe I just won't say anything and hopefully they will never notice.  But sometimes as the adult you gotta do the uncomfortable stuff.  And actually I was grateful that they did not over react.  I do appreciate your comment and I hope you come back again.

  • Paul
    Dec. 10, 2008

    :) Fast and faster..., I love it!

    That is exactly what they need, to know we're there and that we love them.

    We are each to our own, but what I like most about this article is that makes me think. Children are born with little power to understand our world, our sometimes strange rules, nature's capricious whims. Someone needs to explain what is happening.

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    RHMLucky777

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    :) Fast and faster..., I love it!

    That is exactly what they need, to know we're there and that we love them.

    We are each to our own, but what I like most about this article is that makes me think. Children are born with little power to understand our world, our sometimes strange rules, nature's capricious whims. Someone needs to explain what is happening.

     

    My kids are and were, like yours, often likely to shrug their shoulders when more pressing matters were present, like what's for dinner? But being a loved one, they need to know, they should have the chance to ask questions and be answered in the most direct fashion.

    Apparently, your neighbor felt that's how she would handle the question - see you directly! :) You seem born to teach.

    • Merely Me
      Health Guide
      Dec. 14, 2008

      Aww thanks!  I just hope I don't add anything else that I have to go around explaining.  It seems the more you live, the more explaining you have to do.  You are very kind to come and read and comment.  Thank you!