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Confused at times

By Dee Tuesday, March 09, 2010

I am sad on a daily bases. I feel I don't have the supprt I need at times. I am in a relationship but he doesn't help me like I need it or understand me at times. I feel he just isnt their for me. But i dont want to be alone what do i do. I have talked to him many times but things havent changed i am tired of this but i am not ready to be alone.

Lisa Emrich, Health Guide
3/ 9/10 8:30pm

Hi Dee,

 

Welcome to MS HealthCentral.  I understand how you feel as sometimes I have felt the same way, athough I do have a supportive boyfriend.  There are some things which I know he has no way of truly understanding, what it's like to like with this disease for example.

 

The National MS Society has a program called Relationship Matters designed to help couples learn about each other and how to come closer.  I've not gone through the program myself, but have thought about it.  I don't know how much your partner knows about MS, but perhaps you can see if this program might interest you both.

3/12/10 2:09pm

I have been through the same thing.  It is hard for people that don't have MS to understand what we are going through.  Although we cannot expect them to fully "get it" I do believe that if they care they should take the time to listen and try to be there.  You are a young beautiful woman that deserves true companionship.  Relationships should survive "in sickness and in health".  However if he is unable to provide you with enough support there is nothing wrong with seeking it elsewhere, like on a site such as this.  It breaks my heart to read that you feel all alone.  Please reach out to freinds, family and people in the community.  It is absolutely essential that you have a support system that extends beyond your relationship.  You DESERVE it!!  My thoughts are with you.

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By Dee— Last Modified: 12/19/10, First Published: 03/09/10