one sitting here. Well she is in a nursing home now and here i am. Wehave been married for 30yrs. Happily i thought. she has progressive m.s. and over the years she has had it pretty rough. But we went through everything together.I assumed we would get old together. I,m 55 and she is 56 we met at night school. She had two children 2 and 7 mo.Over the years we married, adopted and had 2 more. About 3 yrs ago she ran out of her klonopin and had a phsycotic episode. Her second the first happened while in the hospital. let me get to the point. The second episode she said she could see into my soul and i was hiding secrets.Over the next 2or3years things got worse. She would have a nightmare and lay there at night whispering horrible things about me. I tried yelling ,pleading denying. Anyway she decided she would rather live in a nursing home than live with me. My children and anyone who knows me know my life has been dedicated to her and still is. I am not allowed to visit or call I have been told how unhappy she is and it breaks my heart . thats it anybody heard of anything like this or any advice please write.
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Q: Hi everyone I am sitting at my wifes computer and i am pretty down. My wife Dianne was always the
I am so sorry to read tht you are having to go through this. Just know that this is not your wife it is the MS. MSis an ugly diease, and it affect each and every one of us so differently and it is so hard to treat and even harder to understand. Know that your wife thgroough it all love you, if she had it her way things wopuld be so different. My MS akes my life so different than I would have even imagined but these are the card life has dealt me, so I must make the best of my situation. I know that it is not easy for you and sometimes the way seems grim, but think and remeber the good times that once were and smile, that is what I do, I try and remember the days when I could walk, the days when I had no pain, and I smile :). We were not promised days on flowerly beds of ease, mine sure are not, but I am among the living and for that I am grteful. Smile and just hang in there, there soon will dawn a brighter day, I know there will,, smile for her, when she sees you smile it makes her day better, I see my husband watching me, I know he is looking to see how I am reacting, so I put on a happy face, so he will not see my pain, even when I am in pain, sometimes I go when I do not feel like going, itis called life. Feel better, it will get better, I promise.
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I don't know what I would do,I have been married for 21 years,and I love me wife too.
This disease? sucks,I won't cuss.
My wife is a trooper,she injects me once a week with star trek nanites,sometimes I do that though,I get upset and start saying things about her at night,she is sleeping I hope.
I hear myself saying things I don't mean,and its not me,pain receptors are at skin level,but this one runs deep,excuse? maybe?.
If you want to talk feel free.i'll be your friend if you be mine,I would rather speak with people face to face,but,I guess this is the life we chose.
Hang in there,just love her and be patient,she will come around,time has a way of helping you adjust to the impossible.
She should be on an anti depressant suah as Effexor. That works for my wife who has progressiveMS
I am so sorry. This is horrible for you and for your family and your wife. Have you spoken with her doctors? or if they won't talk with you, could your kids mention it? These symptoms are important for them to know as well--that way they can ensure that it's not more lesions or something else happening in addition to the ms (like a stroke-my grandfather had mini-strokes and started saying some not nice stuff--luckily, they found it out after my mom spoke with his doctor and he was put on some meds and it got better). I cannot imagine your feelings of loss; have you spoken with a therapist perhaps? It may help you get through this--quite honestly, I'm not sure that my 7 yr marriage will go through this. Your wife was extremely lucky to have you in her life-and I know deep down she knows that as well. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully positive changes will be coming soon.
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Thanks for replying to my self pity episode. I have not talked to Dianne for a while now. I hear from my kids that she is very unhappy. She is only 56 and everyone else is much older. She does not answer her phone. She always leaves her ringer off. The kids mention me and she says she misses me and will call me. When they bring up the subject of my uninfidelity she says theres things they dont know and not to talk about it. Idon,t know iether. Dont look good i want to go bring her home so bad . But i wont until she works it out. My testerone disapeared years ago. Thanks H.N.H.