Dear Rem: My Husband can relate to exactly what you are saying!  My husband watches me in extreme Pain constantly, everyday. I am very fortunate that my children are older and moved out of the home, thank you Father, they do not see my Pain. That would kill me, if they did see my pain, I don't think I could take that mentally..honest. I live here in beautiful Hawaii the Weather is just right for ME here. Not too hot ..not too cold ...just right.  The pain that your wie is experiencing feels like she is have extreme BAck pain all over again..like ...Labor pains.. What can you do?  Not much other than ..offer her a heating pad for her neck and back and make sure she sees the best neurologist. Topamax has helped my major headaches ..but your taste buds will disappear ..you have to get her to eat! You could always offer her a nice Hawaiian Vacation and get her away from the Hot Weather!  That might work!  :) You are right MS does torture Me every day...only if I let it torture Me!  I refuse to lay in the bed helpless...I have a farm..yes, here in Hawaii and I get up and feed the animals..everyday! I feel like it is therapy for me ..does your wife like a certain pet maybe? I can think of more later and I will write back soon RabbitRaiser2