Because we are human beings, we possess the powerful characteristic of hope. We hope for the best even while anticipating the worst. We have been told that without hope, all is lost.
Even children have been named Hope with the anticipation (hope) that their name becomes their legacy.
I do not know whether or not hope is a trait that we share with other living creatures. I do not know if my dog, as she waits eagerly at the side of my bed consciously hopes that I will call her up. I do not know if the Morning Dove resting in my yard hopes that a hawk does not see her.
The ninety-nine and one half percent certainty that I have that only humans are capable of hope still has that half-percent margin for error. Whether or not hope is universal, I am sure that human beings have it and, more so, exercise it freely and often. We hope frequently, usually hoping for the best (at least for ourselves).
When I decided on gastric bypass weight-loss surgery, my hope was pretty high. Perhaps my hope was even a little extreme:
I hoped that gastric bypass would get me near-super model thin and beautiful...
I hoped weight-loss surgery might return my prior good health and vitality of youth, perhaps to the point of being bullet proof...
I hoped that once the weight was gone I would never be hungry and there would be no need for dieting, and pouch rules, and vitamins everyday. I especially hoped I would not have to exercise...
I also hoped my relationships would turn perfect and that love would be exactly what I thought it was when I was twelve years old.
Unfortunately, my particular brand of hope was flawed. Reconstruction was needed: a revision of my near-perfect hope into a more realistic brand of hope. I am thankful for my 100-lb weight-loss from gastric bypass, even though I envy those who got near-super model thin from their weight-loss surgery.
But what if your hope was realistic to begin with, and the desired outcome was still not attained. Simple enough: have more hope. Try again. The most definitive method for ending things is to do that ourselves, just give up and stop trying. I suppose the trick of it all is to figure out what is realistic and what is not, hence the need for a support system to help us think it through. But again, what if we were realistic and did not get what was anticipated. It is then that we revise.
If we did not get what was desired or what was anticipated after weight loss surgery, we can exercise our hope and seek revision.
Proximal Gastric Bypass Surgery
Proximal Gastric Bypass is the most often performed weight-loss surgery in the United States. Better known as gastric bypass, it is a procedure in which the stomach is divided into two compartments. The upper part of the stomach, or the pouch, is the smaller part. The small bowel is split and raised to the upper stomach where an opening is made between the pouch and the small bowel. This opening is called a stoma. The stoma size holds food in the pouch, and the patient feels full for many hours on a small portion of food. The size of the stoma is critical whereas one that is too large will not allow the patient to feel full while one that is too small can cause heartburn, nausea or vomiting.