The last time we were together, we were discussing body image. The point of focus was weight issues and the emotional and psychological baggage caused by those issues. Do not get me wrong and believe that I am an advocate for obesity. The health issues from obesity are well-documented and, as a nation, we are growing larger at an alarming rate. The point I am attempting to make is to not demean yourself because you are overweight. Although specific problems might exist if you are obese, beating yourself up along the way only promotes another problem. Having said that, let’s get to where the last article, Body Image: It’s Good To Be Me Pt. 1, left off.
When you look in the mirror, are you okay with the person you see? If the answer is no, you are not alone. Do not become complacent; you have some work to do. Begin by not judging yourself through other people’s opinions. Family and friends can influence us with positive or negative comments but only if we allow them to. Do not put yourself in a narrow capsule of personality based on what other people think. Even physicians who give advice about health can affect how a person feels about herself.
If you wish to silence the critics, begin with yourself. If you are in the habit of self-deprecation then you need to stop. There is no need for harsh self-critiques or jokes about yourself. Others will be less inclined to critique you if you stop leading the way.Begin developing a positive attitude about who you are. Grow comfortable with your body just as it is. All things are not negative, so start to seek out what is positive. Realistically, the shape and size of your body is your business and no one else’s. If you are feeling some dissatisfaction, begin identifying things you can change. Start small and simple. A good sequence of simple esteem building actions will boost your confidence.Projecting a positive attitude, one that you truly believe, will go a long way to building people's positive opinion of you. This in turn will reinforce your positive image of yourself. I have seen this phenomena work in my own life. When I began to see myself as a sexy attractive woman, and I projected charm and a bubbly personality to the world, the world responded by seeing me as a sexy attractive woman even though my appearance had not changed. Self confidence is a very powerful attractant.
Give yourself daily compliments. You are worth it. Perhaps you did a kind act or made someone laugh. Stand up and cheer yourself for having done well. In addition, keep in mind that you may not be seeing yourself the same as many others are seeing you. Chances are a good number of people are comfortable with you just as you are.
If you want to improve your appearance you may do that also. I recently had a tummy tuck to fix an area of my body that I found repulsive. It took me 10-years after my gastric bypass weight-loss surgery to get the tummy tuck. But I did my best not to "kick myself" emotionally along the way. Negative self-talk and faulty thinking do not lend well to success. It is more advantageous to recognize that you are okay as you are and improving every day.
Simple remedies such as eating healthy, regular exercise, and adequate rest will add volumes to your self-esteem, self-image, energy levels, and management of stress.
Should you find yourself struggling, do not hesitate to seek help. A friend's ear or advice from a professional is always useful, and you can feel good about yourself once more for knowing that you have the good sense to reach out when you need to do so.
Living life well-fed,
My Bariatric Life
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Published On: April 30, 2013