i am a 41yr old male who has been incontinent for a very long time now.i have seen many urologists in the past,those doctors didn't help me that much.the urologists i see now is very nice and understanding of my problems.she told me that i had mixed incont./overactive bladder.we tried many different meds but most of them didn't help me at all.we agree that i should stay in diapers for now.she did tell me surgery is an option too.i look in too it and it's not for me.i do like video games and old monster movies/tv shows too i am a sport nut also.i am a nice person who likes females who are understanding about incont.