I need information for my husband

mrs_garcia1090 Community Member November 08, 2009
  • My name is Amara Garcia. My husband is only 24 years old and is suffering from what I believe to be prostate problems. I'm not sure exactly how these things work, but from all of my research I believe that his symptoms are stemming from his prostate. As most men, he doesn't want to have a prostate exam, but I found a web-site that said something about a simple blood test that can determine if he is having prostate problems. Does anyone know if this blood test is just as effective in diagnosing prostate problems as the exam? His symptoms are: frequent urination, pain after ejactulation, pain in lower back and thighs, trouble getting an erection, frequent mood swings, and cold sweats. I am very worried about him. But I'm not sure exactly what's wrong with him and I was wondering if any of you could help me find out. Thank's so much for your help!

5 Comments
  • Anonymous
    Taconic Bear
    Dec. 21, 2009

    The list of symptoms you include are so broad that it could be anything from prostate cancer to a minor badder infection, or could be related to hormonal imbalance which could require significant attention.  They could also be the result of some STDs.  No one can diagnose any of that on line.

     

    I understand that most men have heard horror stories...

    RHMLucky777

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    The list of symptoms you include are so broad that it could be anything from prostate cancer to a minor badder infection, or could be related to hormonal imbalance which could require significant attention.  They could also be the result of some STDs.  No one can diagnose any of that on line.

     

    I understand that most men have heard horror stories about the DRE (digital rectal exam) of the prostate, but I've been having them for 30 years and only one doctor caused any real discomfort.  It's not bad at all when done by an experienced and caring doctor.  But it might not be the first thing a doctor would do anyway.  While PCa is not unknown at that age it is very rare, I expect that the doctor will be running a lot of other tests first.

     

    Too many men buy into the concept that they are invincible, macho, whatever and can tough out a situation.  It is sad that society teaches them this, but nonetheless true.  Then the wife/gf jumps in asking questions, taking over his life, speaking for him, etc.  That's a real problem, because he then feels that you feel he is inadequate.  And frankly many men will not respond because they are not comfortable dealing with a surrogate.  Your role is to get your husband to the doctor, and if necessary get the computer under his fingers where he can be asking his own questions.  In short, while your fears and needs for information are honest and natural, your actions are most likely delaying his getting proper evaluation and treatment.  

     

    In your later messages you

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous
    Nov. 29, 2009

    Your husband can get a blood test (PSA) to check for prostate cancer. However, to be on the safe side he should also get a digital Rectal Exam (DRE) of his prostate. The exam may be of some discomfort for a mintute or so, but it is worth it in the long run. He should discuss this a Urologist. Good luck.

  • Anjali
    Nov. 19, 2009

    Hi Amara,

    I would suggest that your husband consult a doctor immediately. We try to answer as many questions as possible, this is simply a forum for community connectedness. I am sorry your question did not get answered right away, but you should know, we are not medically trained professionals. Your husband's issues seem to be serious. It might just be that...

    RHMLucky777

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    Hi Amara,

    I would suggest that your husband consult a doctor immediately. We try to answer as many questions as possible, this is simply a forum for community connectedness. I am sorry your question did not get answered right away, but you should know, we are not medically trained professionals. Your husband's issues seem to be serious. It might just be that he has a urinary tract infection (similar symptoms) but without someone actually examining him there is no way of knowing. Good luck.

    • Anonymous
      mrs_garcia1090
      Nov. 27, 2009

      Thank you. I was trying to avoid the doctors if it could be something else because he's dreading it. Thnak you for responding.

    • DE
      DE
      Feb. 17, 2010

      Hi, Amara

       

      As one who had prostate troubles from the time I was a teenager, I have to agree with the other commenters.

       

      You (or someone) should convince your husband that he must see a doctor. This is no time to be a macho strongman! He could have a serious problem, but it might just be something routine. If your husband's family has had incidences...

      RHMLucky777

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      Hi, Amara

       

      As one who had prostate troubles from the time I was a teenager, I have to agree with the other commenters.

       

      You (or someone) should convince your husband that he must see a doctor. This is no time to be a macho strongman! He could have a serious problem, but it might just be something routine. If your husband's family has had incidences of prostate cancer, then his urologist should recommend that he have a PSA, a simple blood test. I hope your husband has seen a urologist by now.

       

      I was diagnosed with early-stage prostate cancer a few years ago and have had my prostate surgically removed, but I'm in my 60s. This would be quite rare, I believe, for someone in his 20s.

       

      Best wishes!

       

      DE

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