Getting Support From Family and Friends

I am having a tough time getting my fiancee to realize how badly I am hurting. He knows about the RA, but just doesn't seem to understand the seriousness, or how extreme the pain is. We have four kids together, and a home, and he gets grumpy when I don't feel like doing things I need to do. I put things off a lot due to flareups. Although sometimes I just give in and do my chores while hurting, and then it just hurts worse the next day when I go to work. Can anyone else sympothize? I would love to talk about this to someone who understands, and I'm sure your out there.