This family on this site have become most important to me - and I'd like to wish all of you, even the Canadians, a Happy Happy Thanksgiving.
I'm not cooking the big meal this year, and recieved no invitations. The complex I live in is putting on a nice spread and I'll bake a lemon cake for that. What I have found though, and it's a surprise to me, is in the days leading up to the holiday I've been more exhausted and illogical pain in my feet and hands. I keep looking back to years ago when the BIG party over holidays was always at my house, me doing all the cooking and planning... pointless memories. No invitations this year, says it all, and it breaks my heart.
I'll plan something else for next year so this doesn't happen again.
Laurie
Hi, Laurie,
Your post touched my heart his morning. I wish you could come here to break bread with us. I am cooking a small turkey and some other things to go with it. I can't cook a huge meal anymore, but it will be fine for my husband, my folks and I. Sad thing is that my folks get around better than I do, and hurt a lot less than I do. Still, they have not offered to do one thing to help. I was just thinking that it would be nice if my step-mother would just make the salad. My right hand is screaming today, and it would be a blessing. Still, it is okay. My husband will be more than happy to make the salad for me. I am so blessed to have a wonderful husband. We were not able to have children, so we are basically alone. My sister lives about 600 miles away. His sister live about 90 miles away, but that is too far for me to travel in a car at the moment. My sister is a nurse. She has yet to even ask how I am doing. I guess it comes down to the fact that unless one has a chronic illness, people just don't get it. Even close friends seem to shy away after awhile. That should not happen, but it does. This site is a wonderful place to meet people who do understand and who do care. I hope you find some fellowship at the dinner you are going to. You may find someone very interesting to talk to about things that really matter. You have a lot to share, and a kind spirit. God Bless you, sweetie. (((Hugs)))
V
I really felt sad reading your post on Thanksgiving. Laurie and V Thanksgiving is not a festival in India but we have other family festivals. I share your feelings too. Since you two believe that you have a family in this group, let us join hands to celebrate Thaksgiving even if it is virtually among us separated by large distances. So what if we cannot break a bread or eat a turkey together, let us thank our fate for giving us one big family whose members understand our deepest pain both mental and physical, of living with a chronic illness.
Take care
Ratnapriya
That was a very heart-warming post R. Thank you so much. Isn't this a great website for those of us with RA? I feel as though we have had a real "visit". Have a wonderful weekend.
Blessings and hugs,
V
That was a very heart-warming post R. Thank you so much. Isn't this a great website for those of us with RA? I feel as though we have had a real "visit". Have a wonderful weekend.
Blessings and hugs,
V
You are sooooo sweet, your kind words had tears forming in my eyes.....happiness in my heart. Didn't do much for the pain, LOL....just kidding with you. Those really are kind words, and you really are sweet. Thank you. I think it is XXOO means hugs and kisses to you.
Thank you for your open heart to share a family thru the airwaves. It's interesting to see the responses, feelings, shared here especially around celebrations and holidays. I hope you're near a supportive family and enjoy the merriment.
Laurie
Thank you V. Your heart says more about your turkey dinner than your words do. I'm sorry your family isn't more supportive - and I also agree that if you don't live with a chronic illness, it's just air in one ear and out the other. So lucky you have a warm loving husband. And here on this site, we ARE a family.