but my previous massage therapist is now disabled herself! and I have not been able to bring myself to go to anyone else - when someone gets to know exactly how to help you, it's really difficult to start from scratch with someone new (like anything else, I guess!). My LMT also knew sports medicine and various kinds of massage and PT moves. I had a kinked shoulder for a long time and over a period of time, she used certain stretches and pulls to get it working well again. As long as I saw her every 6 - 8 weeks, I was good. That specific shoulder problem has never recurred, although I am certainly having other aches & pains!
Massage with Osteo - OK. Massage with an RA flare - No thanks. I tried it with a LMT I liked, had confidence in, and who did great when I was not inflammed. When one has joint pain, do not touch. Check your Rheumatologist for advice on this one.
I have quite a few patients with different types of arthritis who come to me even during flare ups. The type of massage you are receiving is what to look for during a flare up. Perhaps your therapist wasn't informed of this? Gentle Swedish massage with heat during a flare up can be a wonderful and welcomed releif to the pain you are suffering/
I used to get shiatsu massage on a regular basis and often, at the end of the treatment, I'ld accidentally tell my massage therapist that I loved her. She knows me well enough that she'd laugh.
That said, sex is a fantastic painkiller, as well. ;)