Hey everybody just had a question..

Hey everybody!  I'm new to RA and I'm having such a hard time explaining to my family that I have RA.  My Mom knows my limitations because she's been around but my brothers just don't understand and I feel like I just want to burst into tears when I talk about it.  I'm still going thru alot accepting that I have arthritis.  I'm getting better but its still hard to explain I have arthritis.  I feel this huge knot in my throat come up and I its so hard to hold back the tears still.  Well we're getting ready to move and most of the RA damage is in my hands and wrists and elbows also.  How am I going to explain to my brothers and family members that I can't lift and move some things?  They're just going to say I'm lazy but I really can't.  RA's weakened my muscles alot in my arms and if I over do it my hands and elbows will flare up.  Also my doctor recommend I get some gloves or braces I think he said for my hands.  Something to help with drift of my fingers and help keep swelling down.  I've seen a ton of gloves advertised for arthritis but I dont know which ones to buy.  Anybody tried any good ones?