What is going on here?

I've been doing this whole RA thing for almost 3 years now. Labs are always normal. I"m taking plaquenil, ultram and as of last week arava. I had a bad few days about 10 days ago, woke up and could not move. Hubby had to get me to an upright position just to go pee. I was unable to move my entire right side for 4 days, left side hurting too but not as bad as right , thank heaven,  and of course this occurs on a Friday morning and was unable to get my rheumy on the phone until Monday. The PA there gave me a shot of steroids and a dose pack of steroids and added that arava to the mix of meds I take. It took a couple of days but I am feeling better, still very sore and achy in my shoulders and elbows my moves are very restricted. Will this not ever get better than it is now, are my shoulders and elbows down for the count? This is all so disturbing and stressful. I feel like a total burden on my family. My work has also started treating me like I've suddenly become unreliable. I did miss three days of work, I went in for 2 hours and did payroll but all of my work was current, nothing behind. I have always prided myself on being on top of every situation. I'm pro-active not re-active. I have never been out of work for RA problems before.

 It is just very upsetting to watch the people around you behave as if you've suddenly become a liability. I have actually went off on a few of them stating " Why is every one suddenly chosing my nursing home". They just tell me that if I could see what they saw last week. What did they see? I did not give up, I wasn't crapping myself and muttering incoherantly. I did not lose my sanity or will to live. I was just sick for a few days.

What the %@*!

I am 42 raised 5 children, worked my whole life. I used to live in the gym. I am very good at my job and have always contributed in every way to better my family and work place.