Feeling Tired

By Penner Saturday, May 02, 2009

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I lost my Mom almost 2 year ago to complications from Ra. It has been very hard and it was a bit hard always to understand the pain that she was in.

Our this past winter I started having trouble with my hands...... after some testing I was told that I have RA. I am really scared! I NOW know the pain that she was in. I don't want to end up like my Mom....she had RA for only 5 years and had just turn 60. I am 35 with 2 small kids. I am feeling tried all the time.... the other day I dropped them off at school and spent the whole day in bed. I keep hoping that this will get better... but I know what I am in for.

managing the pain

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Brad, Health Guide

5/ 2/09 9:13pm

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom and your diagnosis. You have found a great place to find out answers, and just connect with people that are on the same path that you are. Please know that every case of RA is different, and everyone reacts a bit differently to the meds. You may not have the same issues as others have had. Please read the articles and shareposts on this site. Keep in touch with us and take care.

Brad

Penner

5/ 3/09 9:27am

Thanks Brad

I just feel really bad because I never fully understood what she was going through.

Brad, Health Guide

5/ 3/09 9:11pm

Penner,

I think we have all been in that boat at one time or another. I doubt anyone can really understand this until you are in it. The good thing is you were still there to support your mom, and I am sure she appreciated it 100%. Now it's time to take care of yourself, and you have more of a perspective on it as well. I hope you get to feeling better, you will be in my prayers.

Brad

Lene Andersen, Health Guide

5/ 5/09 12:42pm

so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. That's rough.

Yes, every case of RA is different and there may have been other underlying factors that contributed to your mother's death. There is no reason to assume that you will have as severe case of RA as your mother did or that it will endanger your life. I have had RA for over 40 years old and although I have had severe players that were not all funds live through, I'm still here. The treatments have changed significantly in the past decade, even in the last few years and the prognosis for RA is now completely different than it was in the past. Do you have a rheumatologist? Find a good one - I wrote a post last year on how to spot the good ones - and it's quite likely that the two of you, working as a team, will take you back to living. You may also want to check out a brilliant book called The First Year with Rheumatoid Arthritis - you can read more about that book and an interview with its author here. As well, we have an area for the newly diagnosed on the site with posts on various aspects of living well with RA.

Hang in there - it gets easier. It is quite possible that you will be able to live a good life and to be there for your kids.

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