Advice from people who are living with RA

Hello my name is Angela and I am 36 years old,  married with no children.  I was diagnosed with RA when I was 34.  I was too a very healthy person, never had any problems with my health and have always been a thin person.  I was on vacation two years ago with my husband, riding bikes everyday, then noticed my feet were sore, I thought probably from riding too much.  Then eventually my hands got sore and soon enough I couldn't move out of bed or function at all, I didn't know what to think, it felt like I was dying.  So after being sent to different doctors from my family doctor, to then an orthopaedic surgeon to a podiatrist, they finally sent me to a Rheumatologist and then diagnosed with RA.  I thought how could this be? how does this just happen, I always thought things like this happened to people in their old age, after you've experienced life and done everything you wanted to in life, I couldn't accept it.  I had soo many questions!!    They sent to have x-rays, MRI's and blood work.  So they started my on Plaquenil, Prednisone then plaquenil wasn't doing much, they then put me on Methotrexate, took it for maybe six months, eventually made me too sick, but symptoms were almost gone, couldn't believe how this Mxt made me feel almost like I used to feel.  But because it made me too sick I was taken off it.  After a year and a half of seeing the same Rheumatologist, I wasn't satisfied with him, he wasn't very friendly, I felt like I would go into his office and he would basically say to me, how are you feeling, any side affects from the drugs and then send me off to see him every three months.  So I changed Rheumatologist, now I'm seeing a new Rheumatologist, he seems more knowledegable, more caring.  He has now put my on Plaquenil and Sulfasalazine because the MXT made me sick.  I have been on sulfa for about two months now, I can function quite good, but the pain never totally goes away, I still have bad days but mostly I can function pretty good.  Last month I have another MRI of my hand and foot and it came back with erosions in my foot and hand?  what does this mean? he said now I may need to go on Remicade infusions? I really don't like the sound of it and I surely don't want any of those side affects.  I have read soo many comments about people taking this drug and I am 100% certain that I do not want to take this drug.   Is there another drug that people would recommend that doesn't as deadly side affects and has worked for them?  I still don't have any children and would love to one day soon have a child.  I feel like my life has been cut short with this disease, it affects my life in so many ways, I always talk about it and always on my mind.  Is there a possibility of it ever going away?, remission they say it can happen and I haven't had any joint damage yet? is this going to happen eventually?  my doc says, I can't say for sure it won't happen but hopefully not!   I don't like unsure answers they give.  I go back in October to see my doc, who told me to think about taking Remicade infusions, he says I am a candidate for this because of my foot erosions but then says, it's up to you because he is only giving me good advice and the choice is ultimately mine.  I think I'm going to tell him that if the Sulfa. is not working on me then I would really like to try another drug other than infusions.  I just wish this disease goes away and never comes back, it has totally changed my thinking, living and life as a woman, I can't wear high heels anymore only for a few minutes and my feet start throbbing with pain.  Any comments would be nice, or thoughts.  Thanks Ange