You can do it! Don't give in to RA...

Fourth, if you're not already on meds, get on some.  Do your research, check out the internet, ask your doctors, post questions here.  It has taken me many different meds to finally find a combo that works for me.  I'm currently on Remicade and Plaquenil (can't take Methotrexate) also Gabapetin and occasional pain meds (Darvocet) and anti-inflammatory (Etodolac).  I used to resist taking so many meds but realized that I need to do what is best for me now so that I can have a life.  I know that without these meds I would be in a wheelchair and on SS Disability benies.  I don't want that, I'm only 52 and I want to live my life now.  So consider your options and make sure your rheumy isn't too tentative about treatment.  You have to be in control of your treatment plan -- advocate for yourself -- it is very empowering to be in that position so don't surrender it to anyone -- even a doctor.

Fifth, find strength in your faith, whatever that might be.  I am a Christian and I pray to God all the time for strength, courage and comfort.  I was angry with Him for a long time but now I came to realize that this illness has actually been a blessing since it has brought me closer to my Savior, a Man of Sorrows.  This is what I believe -- reconnect with your faith and what you believe.  It can be the single most important advice I can give you.

It took me a long long time to accept my chronic illness.  I didn't want to believe it, didn't want it, I didn't want to take meds.  But with the help of my doctors, my family and my Lord, I have come to grips with having RA.  I am still frustrated, get angry, cry, hurt, feel sorry for myself  -- but I don't stay there.  Like I said before -- RA cannot win, I will not let it.  I pray that you will not let it too.  I pray for your comfort and relief and that you find people in your life that will guide and support you and love you even on your toughest days.  The people on this site and many other RA support sites understand what you are going through, you are not alone.  We love you so please remember you can always reach out to us.  God bless Sarah.