I was diagnosed with MS 6 months after we were married. I remember calling John and telling him, then saying "you can annull the marriage if you want to". Almost 24 years later, with 3 beaughtiful daughters we are still happily married. He's even trying to buy us a house with an elevator to make life easier for me!
Good luck, best wishes and you have a great guy, Lisa!
Hi Tracie! It's is great when our partners move towards us rather than away from us. I'm thrilled to see how that plays out in the long run for so many couples. You're an inspiration for me!
And, I do miss our brief conversations at the neurology clinic. I had a relapse in Nov/Dec and went in for Rituxan infusions in January. Things are pretty much back to normal (at least what has become "normal" anyways) now. Hope you are doing well.
Lisa, MS and RA treatments might someday include love therapy. I wonder what the DRG code would be for "love-matching services?" LOL.
I met my husband five years ago on a personals site when I already had an MS diagnosis and told him upfront during our very first chat. He responded with sympathy and then with: "It doesn't matter, I want to get to know you." I got worse over the years and he never flinched.
I have always told him that if he ever changes his mind about taking the whole journey with me, I won't hold it against him. I believe people need to follow the paths they think will make them happy--and I hope I'll never become a blithering hypocrite about that, lol.
Like you and Rob, My husband and I fell in love with the inner other, not the parts that age, wither, and fall apart. Thank goodness. There's plenty more of that to come!
Kim
Hi Kim,
DRG code for "Love-matching" services - LOL!! Insurance coverage for that might have come in handy at the time. Now it is up to us to keep the love flowing. I'm so glad to hear so many positive stories about relationships which have flourished in the face of MS. Reinforces my hope for what the future will bring.
Lisa
Lisa,
I love hearing happy endings and, once again, congrats to you and Rob.
It was 25 years ago that I had my first date with my husband. I was diagnosed with MS a year after we began to date. He drove me to my first MRI, and ran - RAN - to me to hold me after I received my diagnosis. I told him I would understand if he left. He told me a resounding NO! We've been very happily married for 23 years, and have a wonderful 19 year old son. Life has been good to me.
Thanks for reminding me how blessed I am. Happy Valentine's Day to everyone. Bless you all....
Cathy,
I love hearing such positive stories! It's important to know that love truly is possible regardless of disease or no disease. That "in health and in sickness" is serious business, but it seems like it's much easier when there is love first. I'm really looking forward to how our relationship will grow over the years. Although we've been together for almost 6 years, it seems like we are just beginning.
Lisa
Lisa,
I'm so happy for you and Rob. My husband have been married for 40 years and we have learned to lean on each other and support each other through many illnesses including CA and RA. We are truly blessed and it sounds like you are too.
Enjoy every minute of that wedding planning. You deserve every happiness.
Thank you! Rob and I have certainly had a few minor bumps along the road already. I'm sure that we will encounter more as the years go on. But the cool thing is that we won't have to face them alone. Together is good!
I am enjoying the wedding planning and want to write about that (when I can find an hour or two where I don't get distracted with more online researching for wedding stuff and/or actual teaching or work). So many decisions to be made. :)
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So wonderful for you to have found someone like your Rob. I left my ex after years of undiagnosed pain and now that I know what's up, I'm afraid to trust that anyone would take me on for real. I figure there must be something wrong with them (well, truth be told, it's a swamp out there and often there IS something wrong with them). Good luck to you!
Hi Dabble,
Sorry to hear about your past relationship. It's hard to trust after something happens within a relationship. After being hurt earlier on in my adulthood, it took a while before I could be open enough to allow love to enter into my life. Fortunately there are really good guys out there like Rob who prove that it is okay to trust again. But I understand what you are saying about it being a swamp out there. Best of luck to you!
Lisa