Compliance. Following doctor's orders. The words make my teeth itch and not just because in addition to rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia, I have a chronic case of you're-not-the-boss-of-me-itis.
In the past, the doctor was as close to god as you could get while still being human. It was an age of submitting to authority and none were more in control than those who seemed to control life and death. He - because there were few women in the profession - had specialized medical knowledge, was an expert in illness and as a patient, you did what you were told, you complied, you obeyed orders. And although it can be argued that for acute issues, such as a sprained ankle or strep throat, doing what your doctor tells you - be ice packs or taking antibiotics - is a good idea, but when you have RA or other chronic illnesses, giving up control of your medical care to someone else can work against you.
The idea of compliance is that someone else is a better judge of what will work for you, but are they? Can someone else tell you what a reasonable side effect should be? Can someone other than you be an accurate judge of how much your disease interferes with your life? And what does it do to your sense of self, your ability to cope on a daily basis if someone else makes decisions for you?
I'm not suggesting that you don't listen to your doctor or stop taking your medication without consulting with them first. However, it's time to demystify the aura of the all-knowing medical professional. Your doctor is an expert in their field, just as a teacher, plumber or architect is an expert in their fields, but doctors are also human beings with all that this entails - foibles, quirks and biases. The reason a second opinion can be a good idea is because not all people, or all doctors, know the same information. Sometimes, this is the result of a bias - we've all heard stories of doctors who "don't believe in pain killers" - and sometimes, it's a result of experience or having read an obscure journal article.
You, on the other hand, are an expert in how RA affects your body and your life. Taking control of your life can be an essential part of coping well with RA, a disease that often feels unpredictable and uncontrollable, and part of this process is to take control of your medical care. You are the best advocate for you, know more about your situation than anyone else and you are therefore the natural leader of your medical team. Your doctor is an invaluable member of that team, an expert who can give you information, but you are the one who makes decisions and it's important to find a doctor who understands that dynamic. Being a good advocate for yourself includes, in addition to knowing your disease and being assertive with the medical team, the idea of mindful non-adherence, the very opposite of compliance. Mindful non-adherence can improve your medical care and your life.
If you are on a medication for your RA and the side effects knocks you out to the point where you spend three days of every week on the couch, unable to live your life, it's time to challenge this particular treatment. In this case, being a compliant patient would mean quietly taking a medication that limits your life as much as the disease would, whereas mindful non-adherence has you back in your doctor's office, saying it's time to try something else.