emotional health

RA and the Holidays: Dialing Down the Stress

Lene Andersen Health Guide December 05, 2012
  • The holidays are here, the time that tradition kicks in more firmly than any other time of year. That means doing everything the way you did last year and the year before that and so on. You have expectations of yourself, expectations to perform at a certain level. You always bake seven different kin...

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  • Ellen Galo
    Dec. 05, 2012

    Lene, you've hit the nail on the head as usual!

    For me, what's hardest to give up on is singing events .... for the last two years, I've joined a community chorus 35 miles away because it's organized and conducted by musical friends of ours, and because most of the members are volunteer, they love having someone there who can really 'hit the pitch' right and...

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    Lene, you've hit the nail on the head as usual!

    For me, what's hardest to give up on is singing events .... for the last two years, I've joined a community chorus 35 miles away because it's organized and conducted by musical friends of ours, and because most of the members are volunteer, they love having someone there who can really 'hit the pitch' right and keep them on track.

    Well, this is going to be my LAST YEAR of this --- as much as I love it, to go to rehearsal on Sunday afternoon, after singing (or playing) Sunday morning - followed by another holiday concert in the evening (right in town, and only as a spectator) exhausted me so much, I almost stayed home from work for a day this week!  It just ain't fun without the energy, even without bringing pain into the discussion (I've just gone back on a low dose of sleep med and that has helped tremendously - to just break EVEN, but not for this extra stuff!)  I'm going to have to pick and choose even more than I ever thought.  I look at all the WONDRFUL events happening in the area and am increasingly saying to myself -"That's wonderful - I'm sure those who are able to go will appreciate it!" and it doesn't have to be ME.  For me, peace is being at home, listening to music with my husband (maybe not even in the same room if we are each on our computers! - oh how things have changed since "I was a kid!"

        We have a daughter who really can't come home, even though she's only 4 hours away, for a variety of reasons I won't go into here.  We want to go see her this Saturday and take her to lunch (early Christmas) - but I know that if we do, we will both be exhausted and then Sunday will be another trial by fire.  But - SOME THINGS must be, and others have to take second (or last, none) place.  If we can't bring her home for Christmas, we'll bring Christmas to her.