Is is just me?

I have had severe RA for over a year now and really have not had a pain free day yet.  I am wondering do others find there spouses or others family lacking compassion.  I realize I look the same and so because of that I am expected to do the same things. If pain is mentioned, a general comment is made about not managing your pain well with medication, go talk to the doctor.  I feels like the general attitude is just take more pain medication and keep working.  I find that I just can not do a large nmber of the things I was able to do pre RA. Just wondering and thanks for giving me a place to vent this.