Stop Blaming Yourself for Rheumatoid Arthritis

By Hollybgroovin, Health Guide Monday, November 23, 2009
The Blame Game   Oh the joys of rheumatoid arthritis and the guilt, depression, and the blame that comes with it.  It's called the blame game and I play it so well.  I blame rheumatoid arthritis for the things I no longer can do.  I blame my doctors for telling me I wasn't sick ...
Lene Andersen, Health Guide
11/30/09 11:49am

A couple of years ago, when I reached my 40th anniversary with RA, I discovered that I'd somehow expected to be "released" from serving the sentence and that 40 years seemed an appropriate amount of time to spend being punished. Messed with my head for a little while, but I have a better relationship to it now. I think, anyway. You mentioning how we apologize for needing help rang a rather uncomfortable bell. I think I need to go think some more.

 

Thanks for posting this.

 

12/ 1/09 9:30am

I can't thank you enough for posting this!  It really helps to know others feel the same way...I thought I was losing my mind!  Even though I know this won't "go away"--and most of the tiime I'm managing life just fine--lately, I find myself often wondering why I can't get rid of it.  That little voice inside is working overtime at making me think "if I just do....I will resolve all of this" --like I did something to cause it to begin with.  I apologize a LOT lately, too.  I guess I, too, need to some more thinking!!  Or, rather, find a different game to play!! Let's give this one up!!!!!

Hollybgroovin, Health Guide
12/ 1/09 9:48am

I agree, this game needs to stop!  I am always apologizing to my husband especially when he still has to help me after he gets home for work.  He always tells me to stop apologizing.  I think now, instead of apologizing, I was just give a sincere "thank you".  I think that sounds much better!

12/ 3/09 4:46pm

Your words resinate with everything I do, and it's comforting to know that we don't have to apologise for being us!               P.L.U.R. - Peace, Love, Unity, Respect

Anonymous
misspat
1/14/10 1:15pm

This one was right, correct, on the money and right on time!!!

 

thanks for posting.

 

You really hit the nail on the head!

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By Hollybgroovin, Health Guide— Last Modified: 06/20/12, First Published: 11/23/09