I would suggest you go back to your doctor and talk to her about your symptoms, how they limit your ability to live your life and ask her to clarify why she only wants to give steroids. Steroids have a legitimate role to play in treatment of RA - they have been proven to reduce inflammation and protect joints from damage and can be used either alone or as a sort of "booster" for the meds, increasing the effecte the medication has.   I'm not a doctor, but I would expect a steroid-only treatment to be given to people with mild cases of RA. it may be that if your case is relatively mild, she wants to keep the treatment at the sort of metaphorical bottom rungs of the treatment ladder, leaving you plenty of options for later should your RA get worse.  However, there are other options, such as Plaquinil, which is also a relatively "mild" treatment which can be very effective and will also give you plenty of options should you need them in future.

In addition, with any treatment, you have to balance the beneficial effects with the side effects and if the side effects are unreasonable or make your life difficult to live, and then perhaps this is not the right medication for you. But how to make your doctor understand this? A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about being a self advocate and you may find some ideas in there about having this discussion with your doctor. 

I don't know much about locating doctors, but you can try the website of the American College of Rheumatologists to see if they have a listing of someone closer to you. However, if you only have few options, it may be worth it to try to develop the relationship with your current rheumatologist. What your family doctor like? Would they be able to help you with this, either by speaking to you rheumatologist or perhaps finding another one for you?