Hi,
I just found this website, and am new to the whole foum idea. My husband and I have had a hard time conceiving as well, and in desperation has been going to different websites, and forums as well, and he has enlightened me to the process.
I am in my early 30's. We have one child, with out any complications, or really even trying. We got pregnaunt 3 months after half heartily trying.
* Two years later we started trying again, nothing for 3 years.
* Diagnosed with RA.
* Continued trying for an aditional 1.5 years - no such luck
*Tried 4 IUI's. - no such luck
* Decided to do IVF (long story short) - doctors say that my RA has ruined my
eggs.
My rhuematologist said the chances of my RA effecting our infertility is rare. But the specialists I saw said it was indefinate. I seem to believe my Infertility Specialists.
I don't want to alarm anyone, but if I could give advise to anyone who may have my same journey.... if you can afford to do so,... do the IUI's, or IVF.
1) Don't wait, do it asap. We now wonder if we had proceeded with IVF sooner, if we would now have had a different outcome. All of our friends, and some doctors said, "It's typical for some couples to struggle with conception, don't fret, be patient, sometimes it takes time, this can be normal" There's nothing normal about RA.
2) Change your diet. My husband and I have read so much about how eating WELL can truely give us hope for a better outcome.
3) Ask your doctor about different Med's you can take. I'm on Sulphasalazine, and "supposidly" it's pretty safe, and I can even "possibly" ween off of it when I get pregnaunt.
4) Look into natural / "SAFE" suppliments. My husband and I are currently taking "Royal Jelly & Pollen", we know it's in the "grey" but are willing to do anything that is "safe". And I have turned to all organic produce, and milk. I also cut out meats, for other personal reasons. And like the other person stated, I have an appointment for acupunture in the morning. (Sorry I can't spell).
5) No matter what Remember you have to come first. Because if you sacrafice your health for a little one, what good comes from that for that little one.
I hope this info helps, and I hope it doesn't alarm you, take it with a grain of salt and apply it as you think you should.
Remember Faith, Hope, Endurance
Sallly
I am so glad I came across this board since my situation is very similar to the above post. I have a 3.5 year old daughter without even trying to get pregnant right after I got married. Once our daughter turned 1, I got off birth control to conceive another one, I got pregnant the first month we "tried." Unfortunately, the pregnancy was so weird (cramps, weird back pain, etc.) that at about 10 weeks I went into the Dr.'s office insisting on an ultrasound because I just knew something was not right...she said I conceived but nothing ever formed and that I had a bunch of "junk" in my uterus...so she diagnosed me as having a missed miscarriage and scheduled a D&C a week later.
I was devasted but strong and decided that it just wasn't our time. A couple months after my D&C, I started to get horrible pain in both feet esp. first thing in the morning, then it was in my hands, I couldn't even get my wedding ring on! Then I just got excruiating pains in my shoulders, wrists, elbows, knees, my TMJ..and it would even wake me up at night. Went to the Dr. and he told me I had RA. Devasted again.
In the midst of all this, my husband (who worked for the airline industry) got laid off. We didn't have insurance, and life was just literally turned upside down for us. We ended up forclosing on our home and moved in with my parents. Two years after my miscarriage, I am still not pregnant. I don't think I am even ovulating and since my husband is doing contract work and nothing permanent, we still can't afford to see an RE. I wonder if I can ever give my daughter a sibling. We have contemplated adopting but we are not financially stable for that right now.
Thankfully, I feel like my RA is under control now since taking Methotrexate for a while and now I'm only on Plaquenil and Sulfasalazine. But I fear not being able to conceive another child...I am only 30. Life is just so unfair. I can accept that I have RA but I cannot accept that I'm infertile because of it. Especially since my Rheumy insists that it doesn't affect my fertility! My obgyn even gave me clomid but it didn't even make me ovulate at the highest dose. :-( She said she has no idea what is going on and that I needed to see an RE.
Has anyone got an official diagnosis for why they can't conceive with RA?
Sorry my post was so long, I had to vent :-)
Esha