Goals! Goals! Goals!
Has anyone else noticed that, sooner or later, once we become stabilized on our medications, therapists start talking about goals? They stress that goals are important to recovery. Then, if we don't pick a goal or two for ourselves, they select one or more for us. Although... Read more
This experience of mine illustrates the kind of damage we can do to ourselves when we compare ourselves to others, especially if we choose to emulate the wrong role model. When I was a sophomore in high school and couldn't yet drive, it was difficult to date any of my female classmates. No self respecting young man wanted to ask a... Read more
It's a common practice in our society to measure our worth by comparing our accomplishments with the achievements of others. There's no end to the fields of endeavor we might pursue, and within any and all of these fields, we can find someone to emulate, someone we can use as a standard of excellence. For decades professional sports... Read more
Managing our emotions is not always limited to dealing with immediate events. It can be a long term process that delves into deeply rooted misunderstandings. My father was a determined, ingenious and quiet man, with many skills. During my youth I longed for a strong relationship with him. I wanted him to spend time with me, to teach me... Read more
I was raised in a religious environment in which many of the "God-given sacred truths" were inconsistent and even contradictory. When I asked about these inconsistencies and contradictions, I was told that "God works in mysterious ways" and I would be saved from perdition only if I accepted these sacred truths at face... Read more