This coping skill is a derivative, or corollary, of my last blog about setting our own goals.
Stories abound about athletes who accomplish the "impossible." The prospect of seeing old records broken and new ones set is part of the thrill of watching the ...
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re: Choices- Don't let anybody tell you.......
Don Fraser
Wednesday, April 30, 2008 at 06:28 AMre: re: Choices- Don't let anybody tell you.......
Robin Cunningham
Monday, May 12, 2008 at 10:53 PMDon:
I'm finally getting back to you on your comment above.
You, my friend, have hit the nail on the head.
Although you have been honored with a very pretigious award, you have the wisdom to recognize that it our dreams and our struggles to achieve these that are the most important. And the size of our dreams doesn't matter; it is rather the size of our hearts. Our dreams are unigue and each is an important part of our reality. Everyone's dreams are to be respected. And it is wonderful gift to us if we can in any way help another reach his or her dreams.
My mother was born in Iowa, USA, but was raised in Chamipion, Alberta, just south of Calgary. I lived in Seattle for over eight years, married there, and at every opportunity have taken the ferry to Victoria for high tea at the Princess Hotel.
I leave you with this -
Autumn
Autumn leaves are falling,
Yet I recollect the spring
And all the month between.
It's not that I regret
The things I have done,
Only that I might
Have done them better,
Had I fully understood
The passing of the seasons
And changes in the weather.
Peace,
Robin
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Monday, May 19, 2008 at 02:22 PMRobin, once again you have inspired me to re-think my way of doing things. I have apologized to many for not being able to work, telling them all the things that have gone wrong in the past when I tried to do so. I am not asking for sympathy, I am only asking for understanding of "How Things Are." But today I realized that I have also been using past failures to determine how far I reach, to determine what my future goals should be. I restrict myself. I almost doom myself to future failures.
I am trying now to develop a new mindset, like you said, and look at where I am now compared to where I used to be. I have even made some great improvements in the last month. But I still say, "Well, I won't ever be able to do this or that." Untrue. I thought I would never overcome my paranoia and enjoy being with people again. Since I switched to Geodon a month ago, my life has become demonstrably better. I won't say I am eager (yet) to socialize, but I don't dread it and let it torture me like I used to. I have more energy than I have ever had in my life after years of feeling groggy and foggy-headed all time.
Thank you for your post.
Carolyn
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You got it Robin!
Ten years ago the Olympic athlete Sylcan Laman overcame cancer to win a bronze Medal . Along with the Coast Foundation ,she helped set up the Courage to Come Back awards here in BC (west coast of Canada)
In 2005 I was nominated and won the award in the Mental Health division. My fellow -winners included categories of physical disability and substance abuse. We all had one thing in common- recovery from lengthly illness and a significant contribution in our field.
My point is this : there is nothing that you can't do or that you should have done .And the one thing we all have in common is dreams. And all dreams are valid. Our dreams are all different and meaningful, even when we're awake. Some dream of being in a high -paying job of some kind but some of us just hope and dream of getting by this month or finding a place to live.
What is real for some people may just be in someone else's pipe!
Love and peace,
Don Fraser
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