Monday, February 25, 2008
me and my girlfriend have been togather for 6 months we love eachother but she dos all kinds of things that make no sense she refuses to take meds for it she makes herself a outkast from everyone evan if they are talking to her she dosent hear things or see stuff she dos allways seem to think im mad at her when im not some time she fights so much she hits me evan gos as far as grabing a bat or she tears stuff up like beat my tv in with a bat just tearing up the house so i have to restrain her n that just makes her madder i dont know what to do she allways feels bad after her episodes are over at night i cant touch her while shes sleeping she thinks im to close to her n she clostraphobic she wakes me up n the middel of the night pushing me **** near off the bed telling me to stop touching her she allso thinks that everyhbody watches my everymove she actully got mad at me caus i dip my hamburger into my ketchup or when were visiting my mom if im to loud at night she thinks that my moms gonna wake up or somthing n yell at us shes allso very controling she thinks im her slave pretty much if i dont do somthing she ask she gets mad n starts saying i dont love her shes never really hurt me only split my lip shes allways sick she dont like doing anything but siting at the house n talking on the phone she wont let me inside her head or tell me what she feels she says she cant trust me yet i kinda think the strees is a big factor in the wayh shes been actin i love her so much i wont her to be herself but i think the sickness is geting in the way of that she had a hard life i will say that but i just hope some one can help me out n tell me what i should do im not gonna break up with her becaus of this sickness i know she can be helped some days she can be the perfect afectionnate girlfriend i can really tell she loves me its just ths sickness getting in the way i dont know if its the bipolar or schizophrenia all i know is i dont want it to get in the way of or love
Hello justinallen,
With all due respect, I feel you could benefit from a NAMI support group for people affected by their loved ones' mental illnesses. Call 1 (800) 950-NAMI (6264) to find a meeting in your area.
From what you've told us, I feel your girlfriend isn't ready to be in a committed relationship. You've only been together six months, and I feel that's too soon to know if this relationship is "the one," or even just the one you want to be in for now.
You need to protect your own health, and I'm not sure being in this relationship is going to be any easier down the line. Be prepared for a lot of hard times if your girlfriend refuses to take her meds and continues to be abusive towards you. A split lip is no joke.
Please, think carefully about how to proceed. If you truly love her and she returns this feeling in a healthy way, then you have a chance of working things out. But only if she gets in treatment.
I'm sorry, but if this was me, I'd think twice.
Respectfully,
Chris
Schizophrenia is a thought disorder that could have a mood component.
Symptoms: hallucinations (auditory or visual), delusions, paranoia, disorganized thinking, flat affect, lack of volition.
Bipolar is a combination of depression and mania, sometimes with psychosis or delusions in the manic phase. Various sub-types of bipolar can be diagnosed. The mania is hyper-elevated unless it is hypomania, and the depression is lower than low, sometimes leading in the manic stages to binge shopping (charging thousands of dollars in a feel-good buying spree) or in the depressive moods the consideration of suicide, which could be an impulsive act if the person has come out of the depression and has the energy to go through with it.
Christina