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Sunday, March 22, 2009
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I had to write...DeeDeeSaturday, March 21, 2009 at 05:36 AM My husband is 34 and was diagnosed at 18. We have been married now for 6 years. I married him knowing full well about his illness. I can't say its been a bed of roses but life is good, today. It is alot of work to be married to him, and ...

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Janet
Sunday, March 22, 2009 at 07:47 AM

Thank You for your post. I agree with you 100% when you say there will be both good times and bad times. Also I agree with you when you say that you must look at the individual with the illness and the person separately. I commend you on taking an active role in your husband's life and his illness. I have been living with schizoaffective disorder for over half of my life. I wa first diagnosed at the age of 23 and and I now am 49. I am so thankful I have a loving family that stands by me through the bad times and loves me al the time.

I would like to close by saying I wish you and your family nothing but te best and again I commend you for posting on this site and for standing my your husband..

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DeeDee17
Sunday, March 22, 2009 at 11:20 AM
hi janet, I just had to write because the things i was reading just didn't sit well with me. I came to this site to see if anyone had any idiea on how to do things better with and for my husband...all I saw were things about should I stay or go or how hard things are living with a person with this illness...I just believe that those are not the right questions or outlook. As for you saying you commend me...don't. I'm not a marter...I a wife and mother, with a problem illness afflicting someone. Its not commendable, its just life. Thank you for the well wishes and I hope you are doing well.

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Christina Bruni
Sunday, March 22, 2009 at 11:09 AM

Hi DeeDee,

What an inspiring SharePost you've written for all of us to read.

You are a wise woman and your words are right-on.

We are people first, not to be identified by our symptoms.

We have personalities, quirks, talents and traits just like anyone who doesn't have SZ.

I admire your courage to stand by your husband and fight with him against the SZ.

You are so right to tell us to remember the good things.

Because there are good things.

Regards,

Christina

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DeeDee17
Sunday, March 22, 2009 at 11:43 AM
Hello Christina, I'm glad that you appreciate what I wrote. It's not wise, it's accepting people for who they are..not what has happened to them. Everyone's life is a roller coaster..just for different reasons. If you care for someone..you take the ride...hold on down hill and laugh up hill.

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Adam's mom
Wednesday, April 08, 2009 at 01:58 PM

Dee-Dee,

Thanks so much. I have a recently diagnosed 16 yr.old son. I am really struggling trying to stay positive. I am beginning to be able to accept things. It is difficult, but I will not ever give up or abandon him. I am a better, stronger, person and I do have more empathy for others. Keep posting. I need to hear the positive things so that I can change my attitude. Your post gives me hope that my son can someday find a woman of strength and character who will love him.