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Chivarly. Where is it? What is it? The dictionary on my puter defines it as "including courtesy, generosity."
Courtesy means "respectful, or considerate act or expression."
Generosity means "freedom from meanness or smallness of mind or character."
I am a firm believer in chivarly. I have the upmost respect for my wife and women in general. Maybe that's why I have more women friends then men.
The other day at the grocery store a woman was trying to get an item off a shelf that was too high for her. I asked her if I she needed help. I got the item for her.
My wife and I went to the movies the other day. After the movie was over she needed to use the bathroom. As I waited outside a woman came out of the ladies room asking if I was waiting for my wife. She said that she needs help getting off the toilet. I didn't give it a second thought and went in to help her.
I have been married to my wife for 10 years. In that 10 years I have never called her a name, always hold the door, and help her in any way I can. We have never had an arguement. I do what she asks (she asks in a way that isn't accusing).
I love my wife. There was a short time where I doubted my love. I felt wrongly. I have no doubt that I love her. That short time made me realize how much I really care.
When I volunteered at the outpatient clinic there was a desire to know more about relationships. They set up a panel of three couples to talk about their relationships. Two people out of 50 possible consumers showed up.
Love isn't mean, angry, resentful, condensending, hurtful, jealous, and so many other things.
Love is a gift, it is good, joyous, happy, trusting, respectful, kind, considerate, compassionate
Love isn't all about sex. Sex is a part of it but it should not be the focal point of a relationship.
I hope that I did not offend anyone. It was not my intention to sound like a preacher.
Chivarly does exist. Use the basic concept of it. Your life will be fulfilled.
Mother Teresa- "Smile at each other, smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other - it doesn't matter who it is - and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other."
David
I just pinned up I Corinthians chapter 18 on my wall this morning. I plan to practice each description of love, one each day. Today was patience. But I didn't get out of the house much, so I was patient with myself when I did something stupid and hurt my knee. And I was patient when Mom came over and started rummaging around in my refrigerator. I am generally a pretty patient person.
A friend's husband will probably die some time today. I am patiently waiting for her to call and give me the news; sometimes I am impatient with death. Like when someone's dialysis port gets stopped up and there's nothing more the doctors can do. Then comes the waiting. This man has had to wait too long, but perhaps his strength will be passed on to his wife and daughter.
Donna
HEY -- I meant I Cor. 13, not 18. The "love chapter."
Donna