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It's a hard life
Daleri
Monday, July 27, 2009 at 06:40 PMre: It's a hard life
dg
Wednesday, July 29, 2009 at 10:57 AMMy fathers state of mind was enjuiced by alchahol and drugs he made that choice to pick up a bottle. The time for sympathy towards him has long past for me. It's different for the people who had no choice and it was past down through the family. I fell sorry for them. But i will not spend my life feeling sorry for a man whos actions created the problem.
re: re: It's a hard life
Daleri
Friday, July 31, 2009 at 04:04 AMIt is probably a little of both bad choices and symptoms and/or circumstances that were out of his control. The key is care and concern which might otherwise be described as love. That is the thing that does the most good. It requires giving up and letting go of offenses and hurt but it is very effective.
I hope the best for you and your father.
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Father's
David Robbins
Tuesday, July 28, 2009 at 05:56 AMHi Dean,
I was deeply moved by your sharepost. I'm glad you found peace with your father.
My dad is also an alcoholic. He continues this day to verbally abuse my mother. He is in his 70's and isn't in good health (he never told me that , but I can tell). For the last 4 or 5 years we email each other quite often. How I feel and remember him is totally different. Instead of seeing him as a drunkard, I look at him as a man who did the best he could for us. Late last year his sister died. I will always remember the call. He was crying and very distraught. They were close. I had never seen or heard my dad cry. It was very heart breaking. The thought brings tears to me eyes.
I got side-tracked for a bit. I love my dad and I told him so in an email. He didn't say it back but he knows how I feel.
Thank you for sharing your life.
Peace,
Dave
re: Father's
dg
Wednesday, July 29, 2009 at 11:13 AMI went to a alanon meeting lastnight and talked about my father alanon has always been there in my life its what saved my mom inturn saved her children. If youve never been its a meeting place for friends and family of alchaholics a great way to meet and talk to people in the same situation as me and you, if you ever need to unload try to find a meeting near were you live im sure there will be one near you. Im sorry to hear about you fathers ill health i hope he improves. THanks for the reply its nice to talk to someone in the same situation all my love goes out to you and your mother.
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Hello
Christina Bruni
Tuesday, July 28, 2009 at 11:26 AMHi dg,
Your life has not been easy living with a father who has schizophrenia and alcoholism. Your love for him and your caring will ultimately help him heal. I'm sure he does appreciate your love even if his behavior is sometimes at odds. Hopefully he will stabilize by living in the residence and can have some relief from his symptoms.
Feel free to write here again whenever you feel like it. We are a welcoming community and understand what it's like to have a Dad with schizophrenia.
The positive thing is that you have been able to accept his limitations and you accept him where he is right now in his life. This kind of support will go a long way in helping him and it is also a healthy coping skill for your own feelings about what goes on-the skill of acceptance.
Have a good day and like I said feel free to contribute as often as you'd like.
Regards,
Christina
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As hard as it was for you and your sister, just think of how hard it must have been for him believing and fearing all of those things. It is hard to know what to do. The person has to change almost everything they ever thought or believed and it is hard to get a person to make that change. I am glad that they were able to do something for your father so that he could write you that letter.