Just read this article. Prior to my divorce, two years ago, I fell that I scored 8/10. At the time, I really didn't understand just how harmful my relationship was. I remember telling a colleague that I felt that if I died, I could only imagine 2 friends showing up at my funeral as over the years, I'd lost all of my friends.

The last straw came when my ex-wife tried to control my medical conditions...I have type 2 diabetes. When she discovered that she really couldn't do this, it made matters even worse. Finally, I decided enough was enough and asked for a divorce. I was heartbroken that day but then I realised that the only thing that I'd miss from my life was our lovely home and a lovely view....then i told myself that there are plenty of nice views in the world and that most of them are free.

We split up and we both moved on....then something strange happened. At age 57 I rediscovered my charisma when a new lady moved into my life. We have a totally different relationship. When we get together, within minutes, we are both laughing and joking. We've discovered that we have loads in common.

My advice:- Emotionally abusive relationships can be caused by men and women. If you're in one, you may fall into the trap where you keep telling yourself that this is normal. It isn't. I was married for 30 years and the last 10 years felt like one long, endless argument. You don't have to put up with it.