This might be a little unexpected

Hi MyAnimus,

I feel for what you're going through as I believe you're suggesting maybe your boyfriend is taking advantage of you because of your mental illness?

Maybe it's time to take some time away from that relationship, and look for someone else who can give you what you need without placing conditions on when he'll give it to you.

You'll find someone out there, I'm sure of it, if you genuinely want to be in a relationship, you'll find someone who meets your needs.

By all means, you don't have to be in a relationship to feel good about yourself.  Are you maybe more of an extrovert who would rather be in a relationship than be alone?  A lot of people naturally gravitate to others.

[I"m the opposite-I'm a bit of an introvert and would rather be alone than stay in a relationship to prove I could do it.]

I wish you happiness now and always.

Regards,

cb

Dear My,

I think u are lucky..I stress out about EVERYONE.  The reason I comment is the relationship aspect.  Every man I've ever been in relationship with has in some form used me.  Usually in my perspective, sexually.  The voices argue a LOT about this one.  Normalicy, that men have a different definition of love, that they are selfish, that they use me, that they are more hormonally driven than women, and it goes on and on. 

I don't have problems with communication in this present relationship.  I have problems with solutions, which is always the bottom line.  I continue to communicate the same things, but with no solution or compromise on the partners end of the deal.  I am always the "guilty" party.  I have the same experience that he comes crying to me to reconciliate, but is not willing to agree to a permanent solution!  Where it all comes to a head is what am I willing to be or do to have this relationship endure...not necessarily succeed.  That is a personal choice.  Everything is a personal choice in this life??  I really don't know if it is a choice, or if it is destiny.  Can you hear the various "voices?" I hear and write of?  I can.

So, I can honestly say that I know NOTHING about personal relationships, and I will keep reading posts about this to draw some singular conclusions in the choices people make.

I do know One thing.  I want a healthy relationship with a man.  First I must be healthy with me.  I don't think that will happen in this life..I don't have enough time.

What is healthy?  What is normal?  What is reality.

I have really realized that all the answeres to these questions are a PERSONAL CHOICE.  I can't tell anyone their answere to these questions.

Keep writing please...it makes me consider.

TX

Tinker