marrying a paranoid schizophrenic

<!--StartFragment -->Hello Deepz,

I see you are writing from India.  In that country, there's a NAMI - India.  NAMI is the National Alliance on Mental Illness, located throughout the U.S.  However, affiliates exist in other parts of the world.

You are 26.  Your girlfriend is 23.  I see no problems with marrying someone who has paranoid schizophrenia.  However, I have suggestions related to getting married in general.

How long have you known her?  Does she seem mature enough to handle a long-term relationship, with any ups and downs you may experience?  What are her goals for the future, and yours, and do you share similar values on which to build your life?

 

Related to the SZ, has she been symptomatic while you were dating?  Talking with others, maybe through NAMI India, who have similar concerns, is a good way to see what you'll be dealing with if she ever needs to be hospitalized or have a change of meds.

You are both young.  That's not quite a major concern in whether or not you get married; however, it is somewhat of a concern in terms of how long you've known her and whether she is focused on her recovery and treatment.  Though she developed the illness early in life, long-term studies show that by a person's 40s or 50s, most people do recover.

She has the strong possibility of a stable life if she stays on her meds and actively takes steps and sets goals to maintain her functionality.  You can definitely support her and help her in this.

Obviously you are in love with her.  Congratulations for finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with!

You may want to approach the topic in a general way, by saying, "Have you ever thought you'd like to be married to someone?  I love you and would like to consider that.  What do you need me to know about your illness?  How can I be there for you?"

Also, and this is IMPORTANT, you need to find out RIGHT AWAY, if she does want to marry you, whether she wants kids.  The choice is hers, but it needs to be made with you, not on her own, if you are married.

I know women with schizophrenia who have decided to have kids; some take their medication throughout the pregnancy, others have to come off it.

If you'd like to have kids, and she doesn't, that's another thing to discuss.  As someone living with SZ, I've decided not to have kids.  I have a milder form of the illness right now, and even with that, it's hard to deal with, so I wouldn't want to give birth to a child who had the possibility of a more severe disability.

The decision to have kids or not is something anyone should discuss before getting married, regardless of whether one or both of you have SZ.

I hear that in India the family is a strong support and social network for people diagnosed with schizophrenia.  That is, her mother and father will probably assist you should your future wife have a difficulty.  They may even welcome you as your daughter's husband because you will be a life-long partner for her in what she goes through.

 

Lastly, I want to stress again that a lot of people who don't have SZ go on to marry a woman or a man who does have this illness.  In the privacy of your own soul, maybe by talking to a good friend or spiritual advisor, you can come to terms with whether you'd have the strength to deal with the hard times as well as the good times.

 

In America here, we have a wedding vow, to stand by each other "in sickness and in health, in good times and bad times." 

You need to be honest with yourself about whether you could deal with it if she relapsed or had to be hospitalized again.

 

That said, I want you to know that whatever decision you make about who you marry is yours alone, and right for you.  I respect whatever choice you decide to make.

 

You love her.  You have compassion for her, too.  Those things are important.  I wish you good fortune as you go down the road ahead.

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Deepz:

I've had schizophrenia for fifty-one years.  My wife knew this when we got married.  We are celebrating our thirty-ninth wedding anniversary today (March 16th).

We have a beautiful (as in runway model)and intelligent (as in magna cum laude graduate from New York University, a very good university).

Over the thirty-nine years of our marriage, I have had relapses.  My wife has always been a strong advocate for me.  As such she has been very important in terms of getting me back into recovery.

What I'm saying in summary is that there are potential risks and potential rewards in marrying a person with schizophrenia.  But then, there are also potenital risks and rewards in marrying anyone.

In my mind, there are only three questions to ask.   Does she love you.  Do you love her?  And will you be there for her when she needs you most?

Robin

 

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Hi, deepz. We are almost in the same situation.  My boyfriend has SZ.  I just found out about it.  He told when we first met that he has mental disability but I never knew exactly what kind of mental illness he has.  Right now, I'm searching the web about the SZ.  I'm starting to understand the sickness. I'm still at lost (or hurt) but I still love him and want to help him. 
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I married in haste, due to his persistence. Now he is in rehab for Crack/cocaine and bipolar, he also takes Seroquile and told me yesterday that he is sz, hears voices etc. Thank G_d for your site cuz I didn't understand at all!!!!!!! Now I am so hurt, I have only been married almost 3 months. He is 42, me 38 and must not have recognized his symptoms, he wasn't on medicine. We were only together for 13 days, and haven't been together since. I have been to visit him in rehab 3 times in 3 weeks, it is aa 7 hour drive. today he told me "you interfere with my treatment". I did marry 'for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" but he didn't disclose his many illness and addictions to me. I don't know what I will do, except trust that Yahweh will guide my footsteps. any suggestions?
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Schizophrenia is a tough illness for all involved. The things you described alone indicate that you already know that it isn't going to be a cakewalk, however, it is a choice that you must make--that is, whether you love her enough to deal with some of those things you have described. I am married and there is no doubt in my mind that if my husband were to ever be diagnosed schizophrenic or anything else for that matter, I would stay with him, because I love him that much. You need to have the same mindset before you commit to her.

Just know that what she needs is support; if you aren't able to give that to her, let her go. Otherwise, take it on, and take it on strong. Don't be iffy about it--commit to whatever it is you choose to do. You should not marry her on the premise, or hope, that she will always be "better," because that may not always be the case. There may be severe relapses, even with medication. You should, instead, marry her knowing that there may be tough times ahead. Just my humble opinion. I wish you both the best of luck.
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I am married to a man with paranoid schizophrenia, and I am very happy.  I have done my part to understand the disease by talking to his psychiatrist and counselor, and by doing research about the disease.  I can honestly say that your girlfriend needs your support.  Encourage her to remain on medication and not to touch drugs or alcohol.  Be sure she stays in therapy and the two of you can live a long and happy life.  My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and we're still going strong.  I love him with all my heart and always will.  With the proper support system, your girlfriend will be okay too.
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I have been married to someone who has paronoid schizphrenia for 3 years. I knew he had this illness when I married him. He has good times and bad. He can't function on a daily basis like others but he is the most kind and gentle man I have ever known. My family, especially my grown children were very much against our getting married, mostly because of their lack of knowledge about the illness, but they have grown to accept him and my mother thinks he is wonderful! Be very aware that your life will not be normal if you marry this girl, but you have to decide what you are willing to give up. Social life is almost out of the question, as those with this illness can not lead a active social life.Dealing with medication issues is also a reality and setbacks are almost a sure bet.I have dealt with it all, but I love this man and I have no doubt how much he loves me.  Good luck
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I've been with my partner now for 18 months and we've talked lots about life-long commitment, an idea which appeals to me because she rocks my world, despite some anomalies in behaviour that I'm only now starting to piece together and make some 'rational' sense out of.

 

Although she hasn't been formally diagnosed by the medical professions, she herself made the connection between some delusional and psychotic states and SZ, and I've been busily doing some research since then which seems to point to the conclusion that many, if not most of the symptoms I've observed (and been on the whipping end of) do in fact point to this disorder.

 

In fact, it's only through my research and trying to decide the best way to re-approach the subject with her that I came across your post, which resonates with me, so in giving you my opinion, I probably need to recognise that it's helping me to form mine.

 

I really love my partner, despite the difficulties we've had in getting to this point. It's been hard for her and hard for me and despite there being many times where I could have given up (and I've recieved much advice that I should give up), I haven't. And even though there is a slow light of realization dawning for me about what committing to this situation more fully will entail, I can't really shut off the emotions that I have.

 

I suppose because I've felt this love for much longer than I've understood that there may be some symptoms attached to the difficulties, it's really hard to stop loving. I don't feel any shame in this or difficulty. The love and desire to commit was there before I began to realise that there may be an illness involved.So I don't think I can turn off the desire to commit because of a few 'difficulties'...

 

... Though, that said, I used to be a counsellor, so I'd be more concerned for you if your desire to marry your partner came AFTER you discovered she had SZ. In a situation like this, it's easy to transfer our own issues onto another person. I suppose within us all there's a natural calling to heal the sick and the infirm, and to protect the vulnerable. Some of us may gain the impression that we are somehow stronger and better because we are prepared to try and master somebody else's condition for them.

 

Be sure then that this is not the reason you want to marry. Marriage isn't the same as medicine. It can't affect a cure to sickness. It comes with it's own issues and difficulties, it's own life force, it's own energy, it's own needs and it's own agendas. On it's own marriage is a tough cookie to manage. The idea sounds tantalising but the reality is either a lifetime of commitment or having to deal with heartbreak and feelings of failure when our desires and expectations fall by the wayside.

 

But you know... I suppose if I married somebody, I'd want them to be prepared to stick by me when the going got tough... If I became sick, ill or vulnerable, I'd want to know that ultimately I hadn't misplaced my faith in the 'wrong' person.  

 

As my partner was beginning to come to terms with her own erratic behaviour, she thanked me for not giving up on her even when she's tried to drive me away. So as these issues become resolved I can begin to see something else being left in it's place- admiration and respect. And thats reciprocated from me because I can admire and respect her more now that i'm able to come to terms with what it really must be like for her living in this crazy world.

 

And I think probably... What most people describe as the intense feelings of'love'... Start to wain and diminish after time... And when this happens they're either find that there's nothing left to sustain the relationship... Or that what's left is the respect and admiration necessary to see past ALL the difficulties marriage can bring, to sustain the relationship til old age and the passing of one or the other on to the afterworld. 

 

And maybe, that's why the other people who have responded to this thread who either have SZ or are married to someone who has it seems so positive. Maybe it's not about the disease at all. Maybe it's just about finding out that, whatever the problems, the person you chose to commit to is made of the 'right stuff' after all.

 

And I think that kind of reassurance has GOT to be good for the self esteem of someone who suffers from this difficult condition.

 

But ultimately, it's also got to be good for the self esteem of the person who doesn't.

 

Good luck Deepz. I've got a feeling you'll need it! :)

 

And ultimately

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I have been married to my husband for going on 5years.  I thas been very touch and go with his illness.  I will admit there are days I just want to leave and give up on him.  The repeated questions everyday about if I will ever hurt him (emotionally) and the nightly dreams of me leaving him or cheating on him.  And, my family fears my safety sometimes because he can go into an episode of rage and delusions if he gets off his meds.  Medicine is very important if your girlfriend is taking he meds regulary it will definetly help.  But, you must also think about if you want kids...will she be able to take her meds while pregnant and if not how will those 9 months of pregnancy go?  I followed my heart and married my husband and we have 2 beautiful kids but every day is a challenge because it could be a good mental day for him or a bad you never know.  Marrying a paranoid schizophrenic is very time consuming and extreme patience and love is needed.
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I'm sure what you are asking is -

I'm ready for some trouble here..but is it worth it?

My answer is -

Yes.

I hear there is medicine now that will keep the disease at bay,mostly. It has to be taken regularly i believe.

Then there is the chance of things getting better after forty.

And who knows- a cure might be around the corner!

So if you truly love this girl..and are willing to go through some trying times for her..that is if you love her enough for that..then i would say go right ahead.

Schizophrenia is a lot better than say cancer;)!

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I have been dating a guy for about 3 months that has SZ. We really care about each other a lot and he's a sweet man but we do have our bad moments and sometimes bad days and I think everyday, can I do this?

Research and feedback like this have helped me deal with his illness much better than I was when I first found out.

One thing that I read and that helped was that you most understand that this is a very serious illness and that you can not love it away.

Second was to learn as much as you can about it and be in their corner it's sometimes you and them against the world.

Third get ready to be really embarrassed by the behaviors and speech exhibited when going through and episode as well as get your feeling hurt sometimes by the one you love as well as others.

Try to warn others especially family and friends ahead of time about episodes and what might occur so as to limit uncomfortableness and embarrassment.

 

But the thing that has helped us the most I think is that I don't act suprised or rattled by his behavior or speech and I don't pacify him like nothing is wrong either, what I usually do is go along with it sometimes to get him to tell me what he is experiencing, like I might say you hear the voices don't you what are they saying, or I know you smell such and such, usually urine, but I don't smell anything and neither does anyone else so lets not make a scene about this.

And everything that I have read says this can be controlled with the right meds the key word is right, it might take trial and error, which can be very difficult especially when they don't think anything is wrong to begin with.

Which is why I keep a daily journal writing down conversations and documenting episodes so that we can discuss them when he is in a remission.

Dealing with SZ is hard for everyone involved I won't lie and say it isn't, but your love and support could go along way in helping the one you love have a better quality of life. So do your research, be kind but firm and consistent and try not to be ever seen as the enemy so that your help and opinions will be better received.

And remember you can't love it away but you can us your love as leverage so that if they would like to keep you in their life this is what we need to do to deal with this together.

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My dad "suffers" with Schizophrenia and he is also Bi-Polar.  There isn't enough space here to begin to tell you our life history but not much of it is good.  Hell on earth might come close, especially for my mom.  I don't know how many times she ran for her life when my dad went into one of his episodes.  He was finally put on very strong medicine that now keeps him sleeping 20 hours a day.  One of my brothers inherited  Bi-Polar and fought it for over 30 years - he ended his misery with suicide 2 years ago.  Would I knowingly marry a person with Schizoprenia - NO WAY!!!

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Hello Deepz,

I've had paranoid schizophrenia since I was 25.  I've been on Risperdal, Zyprexa, Geodon, Depakote, Zyprexa Zydis, Topomax, and Abilify.  I've been through some relapses for not taking my medication or from deep stress such as working while dealing with my mother's death.  Maybe some tips about your girlfriend's weight gain and expressionless face can improve.  I went through it because of the side of effect of taking Zyprexa or Zyprexa Zydis.  It made me sleepy, drowsy, and gain a lot of weight - let's just say from a size 4 to a 12.  I took topomax to reduce my appetite but I was still expressionless.  So my friend came in and complained to that she missed my expressions like my smile to the doctor, and the doctor switched me to Abilify.  The Abilify did wonders.  It is one of the newer medications.  I was no longer drowsy, I had expression on my face, and the weight gain stopped...but of course, I had to lose my previous weight.  But do see what medications her doctor will prescribe.  My friends and family were a key to my recovery and stable state besides my medication.  I am currently in a wonderful and supportive relationship with my boyfriend.  Just remember that having a mental illness is not the person's fault but an illness.  God bless. 

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Another thing I would add to what I posted last night is that when you are married to a person with schizophrenia you have it to.  In sickness and in health til death do you part.  After being married to someone with sz for so many years my advice would still be don't do it.  From asurvivor............
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deepz,

  HI, I would just like to say that you should do what you think is best for the both of you.  My husband of a year was just diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic and it was devastating to both he and I.  But when I married him it was for better or worse and thats what you boht need to think about will you both be around when the going gets tough.

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Major thing is to have her completely commit to taking her medication regularly without lowering it.  My husband is starting to gradually lower his and I am now witnessing more symptoms.  I cannot not talk about this with him as he does not believe he has paranoid schizophrenia but just drug induced phsycosis from 8 years ago which he believes to be gone since he has been clean.  He does not believe the pills help him (seroquil) or that he has any mental illness at all.  His sister (who loves him very much) knows that he does.  this was a relief to me because I thought I was crazy for thinking he had it.  (I studied up on mental illness after I first dated him and all his symptoms point to Parn Sch)  At least I have someone on my side that loves him as much as me and understands the illness.  For me I need to learn to just agree with him.  whatever they see (though it may not be reality to us) is real to them.  It is hard for me as I am the type of person who always needs to be right, and not thought of as someone who did something wrong or hurtful.  To them the things they see are real and it is important to accept what they see and just apologize and move on.  Also be very calm and if you need to, leave the room/house until they calm down.  I love my husband very much.  It is very hard to live with someone who has this disease and if anyone is in my situation please feel free to comment as there does not seem to be any support for people who are living with a spouse who has this disease.
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hi, deepz.

 

i am married to a -- doctor's are trying to

tease out the exact term ("residual?" perhaps?) schizophrenic.  he had an early-onset severe psychotic break as a young teen, but then lived a non-medicated somewhat productive life for the next 30 years.  when we met i knew something was odd about him mentally, but his memory had so declined,he did not remember his diagnosis.  he has mild paranoia, which is difficult to live with and stares off with flat affect and depression which is greatly impacting his social life.  however, i personally, do not regret our marriage.  he is warm and gentle.  yet, any serious relationship with the mentally ill (i myself am disabled bi-polar), is difficult.  i don't think there is ever a true answer on how an individual will be able to take care of themselves in the future and where one's loved one's place in the future will be.  is this depressing?  it should not be.  there is great hope.  but her doctors and you must make your decisions.  if you need peer support, however, you can write to my email address below.

 

--vonice 

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Hi

 

What if paranouid schizo man marry with normal gal and have a healthy baby boy.what are the chances of desease transmission to baby?

Is it possible baby will not get affected with the schizophrenia?

 

 

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be aware that the person you marry may not resemble the person you find yourself with in 30yrs time. The difference between better & worse when schizophrenia is involved is quite extreme. You will find that you will have to constantly adapt your behaviour to your partners' & to do so for a lifetime of marriage takes a great deal of selflessness. Saying that, I speak as daughter of a 70 something schizophrenic father whose medication & treatment is far from progressive. Hopefully treatment today allows for a more fulfulling & functional life than my father &, as a result, my mother has had to cope with as result of living with this much mis-understood disease.

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you no what i have some of the comment that people have wrote and i can say that im discused. i am at the moment with my partner who has paranoid schizophrenia he has had it for 3 years, but i have only been with him for 11months so i dont no much about the illness. he has recently had a relap and he is in hospital, so i can underestand what ur going through - and i had the same thoughts in my head. but after all the thinking that i did it was so simple to decide. if you love her, i mean really love her for better and worse and in sickness and health you will stand by her. before my boyfriend went in hospital i had a lot of trouble with him - he accused me of cheating and everything, but saying that i knew it was his illness so i stuck by him no matter what.

if you feel deap down that you are not strong enough to deal with her illness you need to decide and dont string her along. but in my opinion if you love her there really is no question to be answered. i can underestand if you feel that you arnt strong enough to deal with it for the rest of you life as it is a big decion - but one u have to make. sometimes in situations like this u have to b selfish but there is only u who can decide that.

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Please don't marry that person.  I have been married to a paranoid schizophrenia (with bipolar disorder) for 22 years, and it has been mostly horrible.  You don't realize the abuse that person can afflict (emotional, physical, financial, verbal, and legal).  Each time there is a break, it is harder to forget and rationalize (they are sick).  At first we didn't understand what was happening to him, and then the episodes have gotten worse and longer over the years.  And it takes a cruel toll on the children as well as your own self-worth and dignity.  There are lots of rational people out there to marry.  If that person loved you, they wouldn't be so selfish as to marry you. 
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Hi Deepz,

 

I can't give you any advice but I can tell you about my parents. My mom developed paranoia (not schizophrenia - just the paranoia) about ten years ago. She was about 43 at the time. It has been extremely difficult for both of my parents. For my mom - I feel so bad for her because she truly believes that people are after her. I can't even imagine the fear she lives with daily. On the other hand, there is my dad who seems to be the center of my mom's focus. She fluctuates back and forth between believing he is the one putting others up to persecuting her and him being a victim with her. It has been very difficult. However, my dad loves my mom with everything he has. He would never, ever turn his back on her no matter what she says or does to him. He understands that she is sick. I worry about him more than I worry about her because I often wonder how much can one person take!? But I am glad she has him to take care of her.

 

I don't know if that helps at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is that with enough love and devotion, you can go through it. It's just a question of your willingness to go through more than the usual difficulties of marriage.

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I am married to a paranoid schizophrenic.  I don't regret doing so.  With the newer generation of medications the outlook for a person with schizophrenia is good.  My husband has been had the diagnoses for 13 or 14 years now he has learned to deal with his symptoms will through the support of his family and friends.  It may take her time to settle in to managing she symptoms and find the right medication and the right dose. When I first meat my husband he was sleeping a lot but he has been able to reduce his medication and adjust to it so he is sleeping less.  He works full time and a respectable job.  In fact he earns more then me.  I must admit that there some adjustments to my life but they and worth it for reward of being married to someone who loves and cares about me.  My husband also experiences some of the symptoms similar to your girlfriend but I have learned no to not to judge him and realize he can not always control his symptoms and they are not a personal attack on me but rather his illness.  With time and the help of her heath professionals and her family you can learn to with live her symptoms.  Most days I don't even think about the fact I am married to a schizophrenia. The best thing you can do for her is help her to learn to manage her symptoms and love her like you would love a healthy women.  By treating her like any other women you will help her regain her confidence and inner peace.  She is like any other person with a chronic disease such as diabetes. There adjustments but she is not a bad or weak person. You are facing a challenge but together you can live a wonderful life together.
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My mom is a paranoid schizophrenic, and she wreaked havoc in my life. I do not know to what degree your gf is suffering from this disorder, but I would NEVER marry someone with schizophrenia. It is a 24/7 commitment when you deal with ppl with this disorder. Not only did my mom affect our family life, she affected my father's work and everyone else around us as well.  I would go into much more detail, but this would be 100 pages long. Good luck.

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Hello Deepz

 

Marrying a paranoid sz is commitment ,i am a schizophrenic 38 yrs old with a kid,

there has been more downs than ups. i have nearly lost my husband to a girl .The love he has professed is gone.In india the husband always want the wife to be active and clever.Being a sz is very difficult.i am having tough time to take care of my kid and am very dependant.Deepz if you really love her and vice versa.Then it iis ok.

But the place where i am taking meds,i am also from chennai,the social worker

advises the persons not to get married.There is so much stigtma in our society.

Isuffered humiliation in my apartment bcoz everyone came to know about the illness.i have had three relapes...So meet her doctor and weigh yoyr pros and cons and decide.Please contact me over phone 9841490724  Punitha or mail me at punitha.anamika@gmail.com. i want to start a support group in chennai.Take care Punitha

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my husband is similar but aggressive and i could never leave him. i'm still madly in love and we have a beautiful littie girl together. are u madly in love? if not it won't work. too much stress and hardships.
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The fact that you are even asking advice on the web from complete strangers tells me alot. If you truly feel that this is the person for you, than there should not be any doubt in your mind. Deepz, depending on the severity of your wife's mental illness you have 2 chioces, One; stay with her, love, support and be ready to sacrifice everything [including having children] be the one person who she can trust. Work to help her life with this disease as easy as possible, She may never be able to hold a job, this may keep you from advancing in life, she may become very dependent on you, she may isolate herself and you from freinds and family, she maybe in and out of the hospital her whole life. She may gain weight, lose her hair and possibly have long term health problems from the medications that she takes. She may try suicide. She may need you far more than you think right now, you don't know. The second chioce you have is to break it off and save her some pain. The point I am trying to make is this; I stood exactly were you are standing right now 15 years ago. All these things came to me when I married my wife. I chose to marry my wife. I did not know what I was in for and I did'nt care because I knew I had the one person who loved me unconditionaly, as I love her, so the decision was easy for me. Everything hinges on the severity of your wifes illness. I hope its not like the kind my beautiful wife suffers from. If you can't love her like that then don't marry her. I wish well and hope you find the answer you are looking for.

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i have been married to my husband for 15 years, he did tell me mental illness runs in his family and his father had this illness, and he thinks he might have it this was during when we was dating. now we have 3 kids and going through hard times. when you marry some one with this illness its your illness too and you have to ask yourself will you beable to handle the systems shes going to go through. you will have to stay on top of everything doctors medicines behavers, believe me its hard and the kids due suffer greatly. i have considered giving up but its hard when you know its not their fault they never ask for this. PLEASE do plently of research and talk to doctors about this, you can get advise from people all day but its both of you at the end of the day.

 

smethwick

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when we met, he was diagnosed as follows:

 

Constant Reoccuring Severe Depression with psychotic features

and PTSD

 

He was on celexa and Depakote for some time but the doctor gradually took him off the Depakote, and now his Celexa doesnt work,

 

i bet at this point youre asking what this has to do with you?

 well...

Im here to tell you that living with someone who has sz isnt easy. you cant just put them in a separate room like some movies would have you believe. If you love your gf and you cant see you living your life without her, by all means go for it. because no matter what she sees hears smells tastes or feels that you cant, its well worth it to be loved. and people with sz are human too. they also need love and affection. sometimes thats all that helps some people. if youre wanting to marry her, i say go for it.

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Hi ,

I was diagnosed 4 months ago with paronoid schizophrenia .I am 33 years old and I am back in school and living a normal life . I take 3 different medications and find them to work well . The delusions have stopped but I still think I'm being watch everyday by a group of people ,I know it sounds crazy but I ignore it and live my life nomally .

I also will be getting married to a wonderful man who has been with me for 2years and goes with me to my Dr. every 2 weeks he understands my illness and has seen me at my worst ,yet he is still commited to me for better or worse . It is a tough decision for you because you dont know what to expect from her . Please get her involved in researching her illness so she can fully understand it and learn to live with it the best she can .

I also want to add I was married for 13 years and have 3 children that I am raising .

I am a soccer mom and a hockey mom and know one has a clue .

The medications do make me drowsy so I take a nap every day after school .

 

I wish you all the best and you can reply to my message and I'll follow up .

MIMI

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