When he called a little while ago I was suprised.  We had spoken to each other during the fall and for some reason or other the visit seemed to end badly.  Oh, I know why.

He was due to have surgery on his hip and I had told him for months that I would be there to care for him after the surgery.  He said no, he didn't need me and that hurt my feelings badly.  I called last month to wish him a happy birthday and he didn't answere my call to his voicemail so I figured he didn't want to talk to me anymore. Paranoid sz I think.  Here I am, two days before Christmas, and he called.  His hip is awsome, and he has had a shot in his back that cured that pain and the lucky sot is pain free!  I am so happy for him, and so glad he called.  I invited him to come visit any time, even the week after Christmas into the New Year.  He called back a few minutes later to ask if he could bring his Mutt and of course he can, but then I asked if he would like to come for Christmas.  He said he "just might."  Well, I don't care if he comes for Christmas..it just made me feel wonderful that he is thinking about it.  How precious our friendship is to me now.

I am blessed. I have always tried to stay friends with my x's..after all, my love affairs start with friendship and there is a good reason I have a relationship in the first place.  I like the man.  Whether he comes now or later, or never at all I want to thank him for his friendship and for calling me at the time of a lonesome Christmas. He is still my friend.  I saw him a few years back and he suprised me by offering his apology of "I know I did things that hurt you back then.  I am sorry and I hope that you will forgive me?"

Of course.  Forgiveness is the only miracle that I have to offer.

Again and Again...MERRY CHRISTMAS and again.

Thank you for reading this, for your friendship and support.

with fondness

tinker/dellea