Expectations

Hi Tinker,

Thanks for the SharePost which was so honest and moving.  I picked up on a renewed sense of hope that you have for the future.

Would've responded sooner to everyone here, however, I came home sick after seeing the therapist last night, aches and chills, I'll spare you the details except to say I need to call in sick to work today after a sleepless night.

Lastly I want to say I respect and admire your ability to set boundaries.  To quote my friend's aunt, "You're not half a person without a man."  You're a whole person on your own.

Cheers,

Christina

I need boundary lessons.  Or, rather, I have been exposed to harsh boundary lessons all my life and never paid attention.  I never realized till recently that not only can I set boundaries, but I must set boundaries.  I am miserable without them.  I let people "move in" to my space and take it over.  Like my ex-husband.  Like ex-friends.  Like my mother.  They end up controlling my life and measuring out approval in teaspoons, which I quickly lap up.  I need to drink gallons of self-approval, not the measly amount of approval others mete out to me.  And I can only accomplish that by doing what is right for me.  Not what is right for everyone else.  But it is hard to buck old habits.  Hopefully my new therapist will help me with this.  I just have to realize I don't need to please HER either!

Carolyn