acceptance is the key

Hello Dellea,

Think there are many strands in your post,so excuse me if I don't read it quite right, but I wanted to comment.

Firstly I would agree ( from personal experience) that  acceptance of some 'truths' in old baggage long resisted can sometimes suddenly bring  a new peace and 'balance', with  a kind of freeing-up/release (even if ever so slight) so a forward move is possible...

I may have misread your later comment but I must say it disturbed me greatly , when you reported your physician's apparent  'life sentence' comment on your ongoing physical condition that you are struggling bravely to live with also.

If it occurred as you reported,  that seems outrageous, and unacceptable  patient 'care'.

Some doctors  do feel 'impotent' if they have no dramatic medical treatment to offer and are 'uncomfortable' with problems that are to be lived with when they feel they have nothing to offer.

 Yet,sometimes even small changes or coping strategies, relearning etc make big differences in lives with previous damage to overcome , given motivation and realistic hope.

So, lastly can I just offer this quote , which I have copied down before. Thought it seems appropriate here,with its feeling of slight but gentle optimism,and self determinism

"As for the Future, your task is not to foresee, but to enable it."

 St Exupery

Best wishes

Chris

UK (retired doc, non psych)

Hi Dellea,

I like the quote about "accepting life on life's terms."  There is a book I'm going to read whose title is "Let Go and Let Life."

You are brave to face all the challenges you have.  I know it isn't easy.

Your post is honest about how you're feeling, and that is OK.  The problem arises when we deny our feelings or bury them or self-medicate them.

You are wiser and smarter having gone through what you did.

I have no doubt that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way.

Best wishes,

Christina