I love him so much, please help me figure this out!!

Sunny I can empathize with your pain and hurt and feeling of helplessness and my heart aches for you and your special friend and love. Feel free to read my posts under "SocialWorker" and a great deal of them are lament. I too have been trying to help and cope with my finacee who has sz. I have been hurt deeply and made the central cause/grand master of her delusions and hallucinations. I too, like you, have a caring heart of gold and have gone the extra mile to love and cherish her.

I think the best advice I got was from Christina Bruni who recommended I read "I'm not sick I don't need help." It has outstanding information on how to best support your friend. Please please read this book Sunny. It will be very helpful and may well give you hope too.

Take good care of yourself.

Social Worker (Marty)

Hello Sunny,

It's not going to make a difference whether you convince him right now, tomorrow, or two weeks from today to take his meds.

You have to read the book, I Am Not Sick, I Don't Need Help! to get an idea of the productive, most useful way to "convince" someone to take meds and accept treatment.

You are not alone.  Within the past two weeks, at least 10 people have expressed the same frustration you presented now.

The main thing is to gain his trust, and couch what you say in a certain way instead of telling him, "Why aren't you taking your meds?  Don't you know you'll get sick?"  Because asking those questions isn't the way to go.

Read the book by Dr. Xavier Amador that I mentioned.  This psychologist was able to get his brother Enrique into treatment and having a better life, after years and years of his brother refusing to take the meds.

If you can read the book, it will help you.

Best,

Chri