Friday, April 03, 2009
My Grandson is becoming agressive and I fear he may hurt someone. He is on court ordered meds. He goes to the Mental Health Clinic everyday and takes them.
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Coping with Schizophrenia by Grandparents
4/ 3/09 1:57pm
Hi again,
I wanted to weigh in case it has gotten to the point where your grandson has threatened you or someone else with violence, or has actually hit or struck someone or ransacked an apartment in a fit of rage.
If that has already happened, he definitely needs to be in a hospital or anger management classes or some other kind of treatment.
You may also need to call in the police if this is the case.
Regards,
Christina
4/ 3/09 6:36pm
4/ 3/09 8:18pm
Oh no, he isn't in jail. His Dad got him out but he is court ordered to take his meds. He stopped taking them. Now he has to go and take them in front of the Medical people. It is heartbreaking to see him get violent. He now calls his parents names and threw a water bottle at my daughters face. He yells at the top of his lungs at them too.
4/ 3/09 8:28pm
He says he wants to kill his Dad and his step-father. The Therapist knows that and is working with him. He called my daughter foul names. I do think evveryone is scared of him. He has only thrown a water bottle but he is pretty scary with his OCD type movements. If he goes to a store the security is watching him.
4/ 4/09 2:54pm
4/ 4/09 3:09pm
Hi,
This is a supportive network on the Connection, so I want you to feel free to continue to post SharePosts, with as much or as little information as you feel comfortable providing.
You're being fed information about your grandson that hurts and upsets you because of the nature of what's going on. It's one thing to be informed; it's another thing to feel powerless about being able to change things. You may need to have a frank discussion with whoever is telling you all this information and let them know you think it's long past simply talk therapy, if you believe the violence has gotten worse even with the therapy.
I do not want to sound like I'm questioning the therapist's professionalism. However, as a concerned grandparent you are right to voice your concerns. Because, you've been given the information, and so what do the other people expect you to do after they tell you what's going on?
I only want you to have some relief. I understand he is your grandson and you are concerned, so feel free to keep writing SharePosts here.
Regards,
Christina
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Hello,
I understand your concern. How old is your grandson? Is he in therapy or attending a day program to work on his anger issues? Could you talk to the clinic staff to voice your concern? If your grandson is a danger to others or to himself, that is the criteria for admittance to a psych ward. He may need to be in one if he is violent or getting violent.
Please be assured, though, that your knowing he is aggressive and his changing his behavior are two different things. It isn't healthy for you to feel responsible for his behavior. If you yourself cannot change him, understand that is not your role [to be responsible for his behavior]. You can however alert the professionals to what you see going on, and have peace of mind knowing you did that.
Lastly, I understand you are concerned for other people as well as your grandson. So I would monitor his behavior and as appropriate, take action, which could include talking to the clinic staff or seeing how he might get admitted to a hospital for observation and treatment.
I wish you peace.
Regards,
Christina
He is 20 years old. He is in therapy. I'm not sure if I would be able to talk to the staff because of privacy issues. I guess I should try that. I don't know if the parents would tell me where he goes. He doesn't live here.