• lostman88 lostman88
    November 08, 2008
    how do i protect my child from her mother?schizophrenia-manic depression-bi-polar
    lostman88 lostman88
    November 08, 2008

    the mother of my child has left the home and is trying to get custudy of our child when its been state mandated that she not be left alone with the child.she has visual and auditory visions and is very easly taken advantige of.she has been taken in by people that are feeeding the fire so to speak makeing her call the cops and file for custudy.when she has allready signed over full and sole custudy of the child to me.wich she has allready forgoten and is trying to get the child again...this time she is claiming that i abused her and beat her with outlandish devices.how do i protect myslef from these false claims and keep her away from my child?yes her history is well documented shes been in and out of the hostipal with cutting fits were she cuts herslef or hurts herslef somehow.she has been in and out of the hostipals for weeks at a time.can they keep that out of the courts?

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  • Christina Bruni
    Health Guide
    November 11, 2008
    Christina Bruni
    Health Guide
    November 08, 2008

    Hello lostman,

     

    While I understand your concern and it is valid, I agree with mimi that the main thing is getting your ex-wife the help she needs, including daily medica6tion as prescribed by a doctor.  The issue of custoday may be debatable in court, yet the fact is, she is your child's mother and deserves to be in your child's life.  Getting into treatment and staying in treatment will allow her to be there for her kid.

     

    Again, I agree with Chris.  Your concern borders on stigma that is unfounded if your ex-wife gets and stays in treatment.  You need to cut her some slack, understand that she has a right to see her kids, and work with her on this.

     

    Regards,

    Christina

  • Christina Bruni
    Health Guide
    January 06, 2010
    Christina Bruni
    Health Guide
    November 08, 2008

    Clarification:  Nobody here said that someone who is actively violent who has schizophrenia should be able to have unsupervised visits.  The point was made (but obviously not taken) that at the point in the future that the mother is stable in her recovery visitation could possibly be an option.

     

    Christina

     

     

    • Angie Merrill
      December 08, 2010
      Angie Merrill
      December 08, 2010

      A friend of mine is a grandmother/guardian of her grandchild who is now 4. She has had custody of this child since he was 4months old. This childs mother has been diagnosed a schizophrenic.The County Homicide Investigator's have a signed confession of the mother, murdering her boyfriends mother in 2003. A copy was given to the Grandmother, hoping this would assist her case in Court. The Grandmother furnished the Courts with a copy . The Grandma has been fighting for his safety since the mother lost custody of him at 4 months old. Custody was given to the Grandmother. Supervised visits have been in order for at least 3 years. No bonding has been established between the mother and child. He is only bonded to the supervisor of the visits, as she is the person who plans the activities for the 2 hours, and plays with him. The mother just sits through each visit as if she were a robot with no emotions. Other incidents have happened and now the Courts want the mother to have un-supervised visits here in the near future. This child is eminent danger, due to the fact the mother is a murderer and was never charged because of her mental state of mind.

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  • xr813 April 22, 2009
    xr813
    November 08, 2008

    Ignore the other answers. Do everything you can to keep her away from the child. I know, because my mother has schizophrenia, and it is _still_ messing up my life. Sure, we'd all like to be compassionate blah blah blah but you have your child to worry about, and the child comes first. Do absolutely everything in your power to keep that woman away from the child, or she _will_ destroy that child's life.

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    • lozzy
      July 08, 2009
      lozzy
      July 08, 2009

      i had a daughter with a man who trapped me into getting pregnant (holes in contriception) and is now taking me to court for contact etc but he is a registerd schizophrenic and the way court is going there is nothing i can do to protect my child from him hes going to get what he wants no matter how much i say hes unpredictable its not fair on her, hes a compulsive liar and is winning everyone over. when we first got together i dint know he had this and we were only together a short time because i couldnt cope with his behaviour the mood swings and the lies.

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    • WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011
      WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011
      I am so sorry for what you have been put through. My daughter is in the same situation, only now he's developed the delusion that she told him she wanted him to get her pregnant. The last day he visited his son, he clearly had not been taking his meds and was completely delusional/paranoid and out of it. It is the toughest thing in the world to keep him taking his meds. He thinks everyone else has problems..everyone but him. When he left here after his last visitation, on Thanksgiving, he wrapped his car around a telephone pole, passing in a no passing zone, going 85 in a 30 mph zone. He sheared off the pole, broke his patella, jaw in 3 places and his wrist. He repeatedly refused treatment and until the pain finally got unbearable, wouldn't let hospital personnel touch him. He has been driving for a month and a half on a revoked liscense, failed to appear for his court date for the accident (reckless driving), has no insurance (but says he paid for it 5 years in advance), expired tabs, got pulled over on 3/9, put in jail until the 16th, showed up at our door on 3/19...unannounced, on a non-visitation day, demanding to see his son....denied being in jail...even though he called my daughter on the 9th saying he was getting booked into jail. Etc. Yes, to those who say schizophrenia doesn't matter and shouldn't be a determining factor as far as parenting and visitation goes....I say that's BS! I commend all of those who ARE taking meds, who ARE getting help, but that doesn't apply to everyone. People who refuse to follow their treatments need to be forbidden from harming their children and everyone else. READ MORE
    • Team Tevin
      June 16, 2014
      Team Tevin
      June 16, 2014

      I am actually trying to write to the person who asked for help in her fight. I am going through a similiar situation however it is not the first time. My sister has 6 kids! Count them 6! The first four have all been placed with my mother by Child Protective Services, who has adopted them. The last two, twins, born this year have been under my care since birth. CPS (Child Protective Services) has a new stance on keeping the family together and rules have changed drastically over the past 10  years. They have suggested I file for Guardianship through the Probate Court. I am looking over the documents and have some legal help through a legal service however I'm a bit anxious and feel time is of the essence. For you that have gone through similiar situations...Mother not feeding properly- spoiled milk or overfeeding to hush the babies. Not chanigng or bathing properly. Trying to over medicate the infant boy after circumcision because he was whining (hungry) less than a few hours after his last dose, Mom was intoxicated at the time but even sober, said he was in pain? and she wanted him comforted. I tried explaining she would be overdosing him, sedating him to a point he may not wake. Mom didn't get it. I took the children from her home and have been with me ever since.  These are just a few of the things experienced the first 5 weeks of their life while I lived in to support my sister, hoping she could handle the responsibility. Drinking, Gambling, Differnt Abusive Male Callers. I need help with filing the paper work. What I'm writing her is not in legal format. If you have any help for me or suggestions please respond.

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  • mimi November 09, 2008
    mimi
    November 08, 2008

    Why dont you try helping your ex wife ! She needs to be put on medications that will stop the delusions and all other symptoms of schizophrenia. I'm a mother of 3 children I'm very capable of caring for them because of the medications and because of my love for them .

    It would destroy me should my ex try keeping them from me!

    I'm surprised you would even come on this site and expect us schizophrenics to support you in this!!!!!!!!

    We did not chose schizophrenia it chose us , with help and support we are just like everyone else, you would never know I am living with SZ .We are Doctors, Lawyers,teachers,soccer moms Etc...........................

    My ex tried to keep my children from me ,I fought him in court and won !Because I am on medications and am being followed by doctors . Everything about me is documented! I hope you will do the right thing if she choses to get the help she needs and proves she can care for your child ,you should not keep the child from her it will only make her recovery very difficult.

     

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  • Alone November 04, 2009
    Alone
    November 08, 2008

    Good lord! Now we have Schizophenic people giving advice? Talk about a bias. I am so sorry; but we need sane people, making these tough decitions.

     

    No, you didn't ask for Scizophrenia AND NEITHER DID WE! This has got to stop. If you are schzophrenic, i'm sorry; but you are going to have limits. That, dear suffer, is the way it is.

     

    We need masive reform, in our courts and we need it now.

     

    We simply CAN NOT let Schizophrenic people, of any degree, set our laws! Think about it. Mental sickness does not mean you can break the law.

     

    One problem; of critical concern is the known pattern of how Schzophenic's (of all degrees) work the system. Wake up people.

     

    I'm sorry, but the tough reality is, Schophenia is not an excuse for EVERYTHING! After 33 years of experience; with my brother, the most dificult things to understand is, they are not compleately resposible NOR are they compleately irrisponsible! yet, you will not likely understand that, unless you live with it.

     

    So, if my brother kills you child, is that OK; just because he is schizophenic. Let me tell you, he would NEVER suffer the penalty of a sane person, in our current courts. Should mentaly sick people know they will not be punished? Should they understand that will be rewarded with beter care??? Let me tell you, they know it. Even in the severly deluded and underdeveloped (socaily) cases, such as my brother. He has learned the lesson; well. He is in total control. He works the system; whenever it suites him. Our system is broken, and there is not real protection for you. Only AFTER tragedy strikes, and its too late, will the authorities truly act. I'm living this, so take this from my experience.

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    • stillhere
      January 04, 2010
      stillhere
      January 04, 2010

      I totally agree with "protect the child first"!  "In the childrens best interest"!  Both sides of the judicial mouth.  I am currently in court with a Borderline with homicidal, suicidal ideations, schizophrenia, schizoform, audio hallucinations (from the devil), with narcistic traits, anti-social traits!!!! Scary.  My poor daughter didn't ask for this to be dumped on her either as you didn't ask for your mental condition.  If any child needs extra care taken, it is the child who possibly has the predisposition for any of these afflictions.  I agree WAKE UP!  We need to help who can be helped and take care of those who cannot defend nor understand the afflictions.  It is sad but true.  I am at my wits end since I am being told his conditions "are in the past".  WHAT?? Not medicated, in denial and being able to play that card until.....something terrible happens.  Then guess what?  Why didn't anybody do anything?  Another child lost.

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    • Alone
      January 05, 2010
      Alone
      January 05, 2010

      No offense to mildly Schizophrenic people; who are responsible citizens living with their condition.

       

      I've learned some very hard lessons and they have not come easy, or fast.

       

      1. Crazy is as crazy does.

       

      2. Criminal is as criminal does.

       

      3. You have to have evidence that can be presented in court as infalable. This way, you will probably not even have to present it. They may plead guilty.

       

      4. "Not guilty by reason of insanity", can not stand against facts and evidence. Behaivor is, as behavior does. Once you show a pattern of knowing crime, it doesn't matter how sick someone is, they did it or not. Like I said, if a crazy person kills your child (or threatens them), it's not OK. Insane people need MORE of a deterent.

       

      5. "Guilty" carries with it the assumtion that you know what you did. Insanity will not get you a pass. You may get special care; but it will be in jail.

       

      6. No one really cares what we've been through, as family mmebers of the mentally ill. Courts only care about the facts. This is wrong. This promotes crime, and the next victum could be someone you love. By the time you build solid evidence, you could be stalked, abused, or dead.

       

      7. Mentally ill people are not given the same rights as others. They are given much more! While I'm not one to cry about "rights", my little family HAS NOT been given equal consideration; under the law. Cops will tell you outright, their main conceren, is losing their jobs. They WILL NOT take steps to deter crime; coming from a severly mentaly ill person. Thus, people, including close family, get trampled and victumized; long before any (reluctant) help from authorities, actually happens. This is how our system is broken.

       

      8. There are not long term (6 months +) holding facilities WILLING to hold the severly mentally ill. They are let out after temporary evaluation, usually 8 days later (after a Probate ordered eval). They can be extended to 30 days (Judge only, doctors do not initiate this; without a judge); but usually not where the mentally ill criminal wants to leave. Are you getting the picture? Crime has been fostered. Evals are pretty nice with room, board, good food, and needed meds. They are NOT any kind of deterent (for the cronically ill).

       

      Wake up; indeed! I know many of you are well meaning. Why? Because, for years I said it myself. I said, "Hey, don't you get it? His brain is broken!". True that; but once you get past the pain, of your loved one, and that he MAY, never recover (and I've prayed, laid hands-on and still believe that God can heal anybody and from anything). Still, it's not statistically likely (and I have no lack of faith, and know, to just use it.) THEN, and only then, do you realize, we have been creating MONSTERS! Well meaning as we all are. You have got to draw the line. See #2 above.

       

      Anyway, you said it. What will we do; after the poop has hit the fan? What will we do when someone is dead!? Then, will come the questions.... "WHAT DID YOU DO ABOUT IT?" You know, when somebodies "baby" is dead, they don't tend to attacke the "poor" mentally ill, thay ask their families! Guess what, families are being EXCLUDED by the "Patients rights act".

       

      Stop freaking waiting; for people to DIE, or get stalked or be abused; before we, as a community act acordingly; with our menatlly ill! This is not us, or them. This is all of us. If you're sick, you don't want society fostering, your own demise. If you're healthy, you don't want to fall prey, or your precioius loved ones, especially all of our children, even being victimized (or worse) by these severly, mentally ill delutions. Some are not even about delusions; BUT IT DOESN"T MATTER! Crime is crime! Please understand that. While you will not be put in jail, for mental sickness, you WILL be put in jail for your crimes! While mentaly sick or not!

       

      Next time you are so "understanding" (and we should be) toward the severly mentally ill, just remeber to tell them that they will still go to jail, just like anyone else; for their crimes. The fact is, more than one, out of Six, jailed people, have a mental illness. This is where our severly, menatlly ill people, wind up. Are they being cared for correctly? Yes; in some cases; but how do we know?

       

      Why in the #$%, are we treating the severly mentally like they are not; until they get so bad off, they commit terrible crimes. That's my biggest issue! Do you want to be the victum that puts the next (just turned) criminal psycho, away?  Think about it. The deck is stacked and this IS whats happening; right now! This is one of those things that people don't know and/or assume can't possibly be true. Guess what? It's true. Protect yourself. Do NOT depend on the authorities alone, to protect you. They will not. They basically need a body, before they will act. That could be you. It could be any of us.

       

       

       

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    • stillhere
      January 06, 2010
      stillhere
      January 06, 2010

      I wish all that you say and based on obvious personal experience there was a way to change this broken system.

      I have vowed with whatever is left of me after this court case, I will do all I can to protect other children. 

      So many people know what's going on but so many turn the other cheek as if it is not happening to them thus not their concern.  But it is.  If they have family of any kind.  It is happening to them.  My daughter goes to their childs, grandchilds, neices or nephews schools.  I happen to promote kindness and love but others don't and children including mine are so mad/angry.  Justifiably.  It affects us all.  It is all of our problem. 

      Look around, we've got to start somewhere.

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    • Alone
      January 06, 2010
      Alone
      January 06, 2010

      You know, we will survive. Even death has no sting for me. Take it one day at a time and do not be surprised, at somewhat hidden, motives of mankind.

       

      Mine your P's and Q's; because we are not alowed to go to far, nor to little. Do not cheat. Do not waiver. Do not let family guilt keep you from tough love. Everybodt talks about tough love be few do little but use it as an excuse. Real tough love, is refusing to enable bad behaivior, in those you love. This is not unforgivness. In a real way, it is forgivness. Yet, you must know your role and part. For example, my kids come before my brother. Yet, why do we, as family, allow others to do to us what we would advise anyone else to reject????? Sometimes you have to do the unpopular. Sometimes you don't know the best course, and you must choose the best; at the time. Sometimes, you better do nothing. Sometimes, you better not fail to act.

       

      I just want to encourage you. Consistantly doing what God comands you to do, works. Many times, in ways you can't understand. Basically, HANG ON! You will reap what you sow.

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    • abcd
      January 06, 2010
      abcd
      January 06, 2010

      Please excuse my saying so, but most mentally ill people are not violent... Are you aware of that fact? Frankly, i am much more frightened of an angry "sane" person. By the way, most people who are child abusers do not suffer from mental illness... Can you explain this to me?

       

      i have a 26 year old son with severe sz, and yes, when necessary, we had a court order to have him medicated... But from here to the total state of fear and paranoia you describe is a very long way...

       

      There are many severely mentally ill people out there (and i've had the pleasure of writing with some of them here on this site) who are both responsible and productive, and just lovely people. I find your comments extremely offensive. And, frankly, not too smart...

       

      If you're looking for something to be afraid of, be afraid of crossing the street... You're more likely to be hit by a car than to be attacked by a mentally ill individual..

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    • Alone
      January 06, 2010
      Alone
      January 06, 2010

      Well, I'm not here to baby your sensibilities. You are right! Many mentally ill people are not "violant". I spent a great deal of my life telling people that they shouldn't be afraid of my brother. Now, he has developed a stalking disorder; where he feel in control, by threatening to murder people. Gues what. That's a serious crime.

       

      You are part of the problem and I'll tell you (kindly) exactly why. We the family members do not recognise bad behaivor, until it's often too late. We, by nature of our love, tend to be enablers. Hindsite being 20/20, now I can see how overlooking certain bad behaviors fostered him moving to a crime.

       

      Part of the problem with the authorities is they get it from both sides. Take stalking; for example. AT THE TIME, a family member may call for their loved one to be arrested for a seriuous crime (evidence etc...); but guess what? What about a week later; when things are settled down? Can you see how mother, for example, would call the police for being threatenedl; but next week exclaim their belove sick offspring would REALLY hurt a fly.

       

      What the problem then? Take the REAL case, where the mental pateneit stood before the judge and EVERYONE said, oh he's never really been "voilent". The judge remanded the son into the custody of his well loving parents. Then, the "never volient" son kill BOTH his parent; but for taking his own life. Wake up indeed.

       

      I know this is hard. No kidding! Did you note where I said, "no offese intended toward resonsible people living with mental disorders". Everyone has problems; even if not mental sickness exaclty. Still, that does mean co-over-dependance, enabling, and criminal behavior is OK.

       

      I write this because you, who say you mentaly ill family is different (not criminal), may need to watch out, for yourself. I said; for years, if a person wasn't into crime before the had a breakdown, they will not likey be criminal because of mental sickness. Well, we can' know for sure. That's what this is all about. You don't know.

       

      Oh and calling me paraniod is rich. You should know that everyone is a litttle parnoid (if you're "smart". A little may save your life. If you only knew how I have been tasked to NOT overreact, you'd be perfusly apologising. Then too, I can also (now this is crazy; in our society) better not, darn well, be too little carefull either. Watching to see if my kids are safe; while getting on and off the buss, for example. But then, as a parent, how much is enough? How much is too little? We are all, tasked to stike a balance (and live with the concequences). Balance being the key word. The point is, I'm not just talking about typical parent responsibility stree. He's said, "you'll be dead." and "I'm going to murder you!", and "What are you going to do about your children now?". Therefore, would you like to lecture me on paranoia; some more?

       

      To be clear, everyone is different. Every case is different. What the same, is crime is being fostered. If you are a family member in denial, you are part of the problem. We work so hard accepting the severity of our menatly sick loved ones that we too often fail to see criminal behaivor. WE ARE THE GATE KEEPERS! If you don't recognized a danger, bad things will happen. This is why it's currently VERY bad, for (us) family members, to be leading the charge, We need help! 

       

      The idea the each and every menatly sick person is beter off, on the streets, instead of an instiutuion (that they can't leave) is flawed. That's the current reality. They eventaully go to jail. How they get there, you should be concerned about. A simple count of convicted mentaly ill people, NOW in jail, should give you pause. Each and everyone of them, harmed someone (often repeatedly with impunity), before they were convivted. Every single one of them to come, is a danger to you and yours. The idea that no mentaly ill sufferer will ever go bad again, is illogical. What's being done to promote peace? I'm trying to tell you something very important. The OPPOSITE is happening; even if you don't WANT to belive it.

       

       

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    • stillhere
      January 07, 2010
      stillhere
      January 07, 2010

      alone,

      I know your pain.  I also know what you speak of with the desensitization of bad behavior as the enabler.  It takes time for the dangerous to show their hand.  You are like the aunt of my daughters bio-father (he's mentally ill and in denial).  I know his aunt now looks back (20/20 hindsight) at many instances she let go by which were telling.  As she believed the bio-father had too many feelings, was too senstitive rather than him having no feelings at all.  She cannot protect my daughter from him and I see her fear as she knows he is capable of harm.  I don't feel she did anything wrong by overlooking some of his behaviors.  He progressed into the monster you speak of that we as a society are creating.  The courts have given him the right to continue to stalk and harrass.

      I am educated in psychology but I don't have the knowledge or education to know how to deal with his mental problems.  His aunt feels guilty for enabling for so many years but now a church has taken over where she left off.  Was he always violent? Maybe not.  Maybe it progresses in some this way and not others. We all hope for the best especially with loved ones. Like you say, tough love.  It can't just be a fleeting thought. 

      I understand mental illness does not mean "violence".  But when it does, it cannot and should not be ignored.  How to be heard?  I was told by a parole officer to please bring in some letters I received "in case something does happen, we'll have evidence that led up to the incident"!  I didn't.  It disgusted me.  Just like orders of protection are just a piece of paper and not really any protection. Should be called an order of "direction" so the police know which way to go......

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    • WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011
      WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011

      Yes, it's terrifying and sometimes, it feels as if only the mentally ill people have rights! We are supposed to simply understand that they're ill. There comes a time when you can't feel sorry for them anymore and can only do whatever it takes to protect yourself from them. If they refuse to follow their medication regime, they should be locked up. The system is failing them seriously and everyone else too!

       

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    • WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011
      WorriedOne
      March 21, 2011

      This is an unbelievable accurate post!  To those who are dealing with these people, being stalked and terrorized, there IS no help! They have to actually physically kill, harm or maim someone before anything is done. It's sickening!

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    • Alone
      March 21, 2011
      Alone
      March 21, 2011

      Very good points. I just have to add, that meds, do not cure mental sickness, or in this case, a stalking (harassing for control) disorder.

       

      I have seen the mentally ill be calm, sometime off their meds. Like, when questioned by the police, and I have seen them act like they were the most possessed person that one could imagine, fully on meds  (other than knock-out sedatives, of course.)

       

      Meds help, and that's all they do. Meds are not the ultimate solution, even though many mild cases may find them very helpful. It's the severe (positive) and scary cases, where unfortunately, people through up their hands and deter all justice. As if that's the best, loving way. These sick people then become "monsters"; just because they feel untouchable by the law (over time) and then COMIT CRIMES FOR ATTENTION. I pray, it's not the loss of, one of YOUR, precious family members. Because I'm telling you. I was SHOCKED to see this all in play. The police WILL wait until someone dead. My children have been terrorized for years, and now there old enough to NEVER be able to forget theses times. All the while i watched the police NOT take my childrens best interest to heart. Why, because they did not want to infringe upon a mentally ill persons freedoms! I KNOW! I still can not believe it. You would think people would put children first. Apparently, that just lip service. This is what is WRONG with being just PC (politically correct), and this is exactly how, it could kill you.

       

      Please educate people about this. People do not commit crimes, because they are irresponsible, not taking their meds. It just makes them an that much more scary criminal.

       

      Remember, insane is as insane does. 

       

      Criminal is as criminal does.

       

      Insanity does NOT mean, one can't be criminal. Now, if the judge wants to temper the sentence, because of a persons mental state, then that's NOT up to us, but him. However, I take issue; with the currently over crowded, overly political court system; NOT EVEN CHARGING mentally sick people with crimes, that they are proved doing! This is your world, and the current reality, even if you can't believe it. We really do need to do something about that.

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  • Advice Annie May 05, 2010
    Advice Annie
    November 08, 2008
    I realize this is an old posting, but....someone else looking through the internet may need this advice also so...here goes:  Been there..done this, doing this again.  I am the wife of a man who had 2 children with a schizophrenic mother whom rooked him in with her deceit and got him to marry her before he realized what she was.  The second time she got pregnant was one of the several times that he was trying to make their totally dysfunctional relationship work.  A one night thing at the absolute end of this relationship.    My advice to you is dig, document, investigate and find ALL of the information you can on the irrational behavior, poor choices, violence, etc, etc that comes with this disease.  Use every resource you can find from police reports to voice recorders.  I am not sure what state you are in, but a lot of them only require that one of the two persons being recorded is aware.  My husband made her aware that each and every call was being recorded yet she still says horrible, horrible things and has even told the girls she didn't think they were worth fighting for.  She constantly accuses him of raping the girls even though this is completely ridiculous and stupid.  Along with my own father, he is the best dad (and I am not just saying this because I love him) I have ever known.  Thank goodness we had 2 friends who pushed him to obtain emergency custody when his youngest daughter was 10 months old and had an untreated 3rd degree burn on her foot because someone in their biological mom's home held a curling iron down on this infants foot.  No one ever confessed.  It's been a nightmare dealing with her, but, these babies are worth it.  We've had custody of them since they were 2 1/2 and 10 months.  They are now almost 11 and 8.    Their schizophrenic mom broke the last court order (which required her to be supervised during all visits) last year and she could've been seeing them at our county visitation center for the last year but just recently decided to get an attorney and try and get full custody.  Ridiculous.  Of course, this won't happen, but...she also hooked up with an ex convict who also tried to kill his wife or at least stab her on several occasions in front of his own kids.  She openly admits they are still talking even though she has a CPO on him and I am sure he will return to her home as soon as she feels he can.  She doesn't have any problem with this man also being around the girls, if he could.  Thank God for the internet and research capabilities.   That is how we found this mans record.    Good luck.  Keep your chin up and DON'T GIVE UP.  Don't listen to the critics who have this disease.  I feel sorry for them all and wish they would all use the good medicine our country allows.  Our daughters (they call me mom, not her...I have been the one raising them along with their dad) mother won't get help.  If she did, she'd be much better off and possibly healthy enough to have quality time with her own children.    READ MORE
  • kateforever September 11, 2013
    kateforever
    November 08, 2008
    My x husband whom I was married to for 4years flipped one day and was diagnosed with scitzo. He was abusing me and our 2 month old baby, and note I was pregant with out second child. I tried to stay with him and we had to get him help. He was in and out of hospitals for a year. It got to the point where his dr. Called me in to have a meeting. His dr. Said "the husband u knew is gone forever, and my suggestion for u is to divorce him and leave with the kids." He was a danger to even be around. He didn't know who I was, (he thought I was taylor swift comming to sign a record contract with him) and he didn't even reconize his children. And hence this is a bad case not a slight one. So I moved away with the kids for three years after the divorce. He went into the custody of his parents. I still helped his family pay for medical bills and his medication. After all he was my husband, my children's father, and I loved him. It wasn't his fault and he didn't ask for it, neither did we. I wanted it to be all better but I had to come to the fact he was gone. I felt like my husband died. And some strange man was kiving in his body. I still drove 6 hrs every other weekend and took the kids to see him.    The kids don't think of him as their father, even tho they say they have two dads. And he is slightly better now,  but is on ssi, and will never be able to live alone, or hold down a job. He sleeps 22 of 24 hours a day. An alternative of sadation vs. A permatate life in a mental hospital. Its been 4 years since this happened and I'm remarried. My current husband adopted my kids. And he knows everything. He is still respectful of my xhusband and even supports the kids seeing him. We recentally moved closer so the kids could get to know their real dad better. As he can't b left alone with the kids, my current husband goes and picks him up and takes him out to eat with the kids and even pays for it.  READ MORE
  • Abc July 22, 2014
    Abc
    November 08, 2008
    Hi, I have a similar question. I do not wish to upset anyone and understand mental health is not a choice but a reality for some. My ex partner has schizophrenia and also use to and may still smoke marijuana. We have children together. He has been seeing them supervised. I no longer have contact with him. Unlike the norm' he is violent, but smart and secretive. A few of his episodes he's seen evil timings inside people, hears voices instructing him what to do. I wish him well but worry about the kids safety. The kids do not wish to see him alone, but he is trying to get weekends unsupervised. I'm looking for advice from families and sufferers alike. Of any suggestions in terms of welfare? READ MORE
  • Team Tevin June 16, 2014
    Team Tevin
    November 08, 2008

    I understand this post is years old however I am actually trying to write to the person who asked for help in her fight. I am going through a similiar situation however it is not the first time. My sister has 6 kids! Count them 6! The first four have all been placed with my mother by Child Protective Services, who has adopted them. The last two, twins, born this year have been under my care since birth. CPS (Child Protective Services) has a new stance on keeping the family together and rules have changed drastically over the past 10  years. They have suggested I file for Guardianship through the Probate Court. I am looking over the documents and have some legal help through a legal service however I'm a bit anxious and feel time is of the essence. For you that have gone through similiar situations...Mother not feeding properly- spoiled milk or overfeeding to hush the babies. Not chanigng or bathing properly. Trying to over medicate the infant boy after circumcision because he was whining (hungry) less than a few hours after his last dose, Mom was intoxicated at the time but even sober, said he was in pain? and she wanted him comforted. I tried explaining she would be overdosing him, sedating him to a point he may not wake. Mom didn't get it. I took the children from her home and have been with me ever since.  These are just a few of the things experienced the first 5 weeks of their life while I lived in to support my sister, hoping she could handle the responsibility. Drinking, Gambling, Differnt Abusive Male Callers. I need help with filing the paper work. What I'm writing her is not in legal format. If you have any help for me or suggestions please respond.

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  • Been There December 22, 2010
    Been There
    November 08, 2008

    DO NOT Listen to the advice that it is your responsibility to get your baby's mom help.  She has to want the help.

     

    You need to look out for yourself and your child - and if you bury her in the process - so be it.  Doccument, doccument, doccument.  File a police report for EVERYTHING - don't care if you make the police mad - just tell them to do their job and file the report.  She will continue to dig her own grave - you be there to doccument every thing she does wrong.  If she was truly interested in getting help and changing - you would not be where you are today.  File for sole physical and legal custody and do not back down until you have it.  Move out of state.  Out of sight - out of mind.  Best of luck

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