I have been divorced from my exhusband who was delusional and Schizophreniac. He had believed that the government was after him and that he was being monitored by satellite surveillance. He would nail the curtains to the walls and would never use cell phone in his car or in the house. It used to scared me so much listening to his stories, but I had tried my best to stay calm and tried not to appear affected by it as much as possible infront of him- assuring him that it is probably not true and that he is safe. I understand that foremost thing to do would have been to get the profesisonal help- get him to talk to therapist but I couldn't... I come from quite traditional asian root and in a lot of asian cultures mental illness is considered taboo and people keep quiet about it. My mother was a single mom who raised both me and my brother all by herself and I just could not face to bring this sad fact to my close family. Only when his symptoms became severe and when I felt threatened of his presence then I finally left it behind. Back when we were together, he used to accuse me of having sexual affair with my neighborhood upstairs to us who I had no clue what so ever. He was telling me voices told him that I was having a sexual affair. He was controlling and was telling me who to meet, what to wear and how to do my hairs. My life was miserable. I felt like I was not living my life. When I bgouth all this up to my ex father in law, he did not seem convinced of my words though he did sympathize with me. Anyways, the bottom line is that we are now divoced and it's been almost about a year. I have not seen him for nearly 4 years now. He recently started to look for me contacting my friends, family members, amd my ex boss to inquire about me. It initally scared me very much but eventually I did initiated the call to talk with him on the phone in hope stopping him from calling my peers and to let him know that the marriage is long over and that I have moved on and cannot see myself getting back with him no matter what. The thing is it is very difficult to talk to him and I think that he does not seem to be able to rationalize and understand where I'm coming from and still wants to get back with me. He somehow found out my phone number and has been calling the number for last 3 weeks everynight around the same time 3 times a day. Sometimes I would have 8 missed calls from him. He is calling my younger brother and my mother. I'm honestly scared of his presence. I'm scared to meet him and even the thought of him make me feel scared and bring my mood all the way down to the bottom... I'm posting this message out of desperation. Has anyone gone through similar experience and can share what they had to do to help/ to overcome the situation? Thank you, All the best...