Saturday, June 25, 2011 ms hopeful asks

Q: Im 15 weeks pregnant.Lately,my bf sees colors as patterns that"they"want to harm him and that songs from radio are tools of the nation's pres to speak to him,etc!Do u think has Paranoid schizophrenia?

He also thinks somebody is always following him and that "they" wont stop. Sometimes, he even thinks I have something I am not telling him like I'm one of "them" and I really worried. He don't like to socialize anymore and thinks his siblings is plotting something against him. I am really concerned and truthfully starting to think I have to leave him and focus for our baby's welfare. His mom thought he's mentally ill so she gave him a prescribed drug which she asked from a friend to medicate my bf. She also ask a healer thinking it might be the reason. I think his family is not very helpful in dealing with him because he reacts violently as they keep telling him negative words. I think his environment in their house since he still lives there is not healthy for everybody. He has history of drug abuse but he's clean for almost a year, for sure. Yet, his family keeps saying the only reason he became what he is now is only that he used drugs again latley. The situation in their house has been very depressing ever since it existed. I guess all the pressure and problems cobined and causes his unsusual actions now. Please help me. I feel so alone. Can he still be fine? I thought of leaving him no matter how much I really love him. His everything to me. But for the sake of our baby, I thought of leaving him... But he only listens and stay calm when I am around. I can't do it. I can't be like this miserable as I am having our baby and trying to start life.

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Answers (1)

Christina Bruni, Health Guide

6/29/11 8:16am

Hello ms hopeful,

Your boyfriend should get a consultation with a real person who is a psychiatrist so that he can get a diagnosis that is accurate at this moment in time based on his symptoms. Often people initially abuse street drugs because they are self-medicating an undiagnosed mental illness. This could've been why your boyfriend used the street drugs.

At any rate, if it were me and I had a boyfriend I would set as a condition of staying with him that he not do any street drugs or abuse alcohol. That's just how I feel. You might feel differently. Only if he continues to do the street drugs the situation will get worse with his mental illness and that will be no good for you or your baby.

Really he needs some kind of treatment to be able to function in the world in the best possible way. You do not say why he still lives at home even though he is an adult. I tend to question this: he was adult enough to father a kid so why is he still living with his parents? He will need to step up to the plate to be able to be a good parent.

Other people have written in with similar questions and I always tell them that the person who is exhibiting the symptoms needs to see a professional immediately to get to the bottom of what's happening and get the appropriate treatment. You've taken the first step by writing to this forum. Now your boyfriend has to take the next step and get treatment.

Myself, I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who had a mental illness if he weren't in treatment or weren't taking his medication. This is my personal preference. You might feel differently, you might want to stay with someone who is not in treatment. That is your choice alone to make.

I'm not giving you advice, just some information based on my own experiences. a person who has schizophrenia who does not take his meds really is in no way able to function in society in the way he could if he were in treatment.

You could offer to go with him to the psychiatrist. You could offer to help him in this way. It is your choice alone to make.

The illness, whatever it turns out to be for your boyfriend, will not get any better unless he gets in treatment. That is the reality you might have to deal with for the rest of your life.

Regards,

Christina

Q: Im 15 weeks pregnant.Lately,my bf sees colors as patterns that"they"want to harm him and that songs from radio are tools of the nation's pres to speak to him,etc!Do u think has Paranoid schizophrenia?

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