Hi Kate,

Thanks for your detailed response. I am very patient with the way treatment is progressing. It is just that every few days, my wife starts loosing hopes on when enemies will stop spying on her and gets depressed. Although she is taking medications but she is not convinced that she needs them.

I'm sorry your wife is experiencing delusions and paranoia.  This is a baffling illness for all concerned.  I wish it weren't so, but it takes time to work through paranoid schizophrenia.  Even after I came through my most major delusion, I  struggled, especially with depression.  I still hear voices and personally I think schizophrenia is more than just a biochemical glitch--at its worst, it is a spiritual crisis.  The way I handled the spiritual crisis was not only through medication, but through individual therapy and through following a Buddhist/Christian perspective of loving my "enemies"--the voices.  My therapist supported me in seeing the voices as much sicker than myself and in having compassion for them.  This allowed me to detach from them to a certain extent and my compassion acted as a balm for my spirit and seemed to gradually appease the voices.  Now they are mostly in the background and lately they have not been attacking me and to a certain extent I care for them, so I am very grateful.  Loving the voices is not easy to do at first, but becomes easier with regular practice.  To see the voices as enemies, to be afraid of them and resentful of them all the time takes up so much energy and doesn't promote healing.  This is just my perspective, but it has worked for me.  I am not fully recovered, but I'm heading in that direction.  

It is very good that your wife is willing to take the medications even if she's not convinced that she needs them.  It is very good that she has such an understanding and patient husband.  I recommend getting therapy and finding a support group for mental illness because it will help greatly to lessen the sense of isolation that comes with the territory.  I recommend fostering a faith in a higher power.  And I recommend that she have various creative outlets.  I am an artist, but when I couldn't paint or shoot photographs I turned to crocheting afghans for my family members and making jewelry.  Craftwork is excellent therapy.  Writing in a journal and/or starting a blog is also a great activity.  Joining online support groups is great.  Check out NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)--they have excellent message boards.  What I recommend for your wife, I also recommend for you: find a support group (NAMI again), if you need it, get therapy, have faith in something greater than yourself, have creative outlets, join online support groups (NAMI message boards are also a place for caretakers to find support), blog about your experience, write SharePosts here.  Take good care of yourself by developing a support network for yourself.  I know how draining mental illness is for all involved, but you do have choices.  

I would love to keep in touch with you and/or your wife, if she was willing.  Helping others is also strong therapy.  If you want go to my blog--Yin And Yang--http://wanderer62.blogspot.com/   Check out my profile, you can send an email to me there.  Also my blog is part of a network of blogs that deal with various people who suffer from mental illnesses.  You may find several blogs there that suit you.  

Good luck and my best to both of you!

Hi there,

Looks like meds are working...she has given me feedback that during most of the day, she doesn't have these delusions. In last couple of days she just had a delusion at 1 night. She is spending this month with her parents and sisters. Is her trip to her family making any difference? Any ideas?

My son has started abilify and still gets delusions twice or three times a day.  It is very trying at times but we have to keep going.  Just keep taking the medicine and be patient.